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Gabe Howard on Mental Illness

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Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer, speaker, and host of the weekly Psych Central show who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. His new book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. You’ll be captivated by Gabe’s story as he tells it – it’s compelling, relatable, inspiring, and educational. Whether or not you have bipolar disorder or another mental illness, chances are you know someone or some people who do and so this is an important episode to listen to – you’ll deepen your understanding of what it means to live with mental illness. 

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In This Interview, Gabe Howard and I Discuss…

  • His book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations
  • What bipolar disorder is (and isn’t) and how it shows up in his life
  • His compelling story
  • The myth that people with mental illness come from bad families
  • When he went to the ER because of suicidal thoughts
  • How he defines recovery: spending more time living life than managing his bipolar disorder
  • The 4 years he spent in a battle with his mental illness
  • How you have to learn what works for you –  and how that takes time
  • The role of medication in the treatment of mental illness
  • How it stings when your body lets you down
  • Eric’s experience taking and not taking medication for his depression
  • Whole health wellness
  • Suicide
  • Don’t choose a permanent solution to a temporary problem
  • How suicide doesn’t end the pain – it transfers it to someone else

Gabe Howard Links:

gabehoward.com

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Lauren Zander on Your Inner Dialogue

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Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life. 

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In This Interview, Lauren Zander and I Discuss…

  • Her book, Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life.
  • Getting conscious of the unconscious parts of yourself
  • Her life-changing moment at 19
  • How much of what is plaguing a person is in their inner dialogue
  • The strategist in your head
  • That over 80% of our thoughts are negative and repeating from the day before
  • The chicken, the brat, the weather reporter
  • Keeping promises to yourself
  • Integrity and spirituality
  • Consequences
  • Accountability

Lauren Zander Links:

handelgroup.com

Twitter

Facebook

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Father Richard Rohr on The Universal Christ

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Father Richard Rohr is a globally recognized ecumenical teacher bearing witness to the universal awakening within Christian mysticism and the Perennial Tradition. He’s a Franciscan priest in the New Mexico Provence and the founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in Albuquerque. In this episode, Eric and Father Richard discuss his most recent book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe.

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In This Interview, Father Richard Rohr and I Discuss…

  • His book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe
  • What the word “Christ” means for him
  • How God loves things by becoming them, by uniting with them
  • That a mature Christian sees Christ in everything and everyone else
  • The notion of God IN all things vs God IS all things
  • How Christ is a stand-in for everything
  • Focusing on the death of Christ and missing the life of Christ
  • When God hides his face
  • The difference between spiritual darkness and depression
  • A loss of the feeling of faith in God isn’t the same thing as a loss of faith in God
  • How distraction doesn’t make you happy
  • God uses 3 things to draw us out of ourselves: goodness, truth and beauty
  • Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful
  • How God uses evil for your transformation
  • That Jesus punishes nobody
  • When you return in kind – like Michael and the dragon – you become the dragon
  • The 2 virtues you need to move forward on the spiritual path: humility and honesty

Father Richard Rohr Links:

Center for Action and Contemplation

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If you liked this episode with Father Richard Rohr, you might also enjoy listening to these earlier interviews:

Richard Rohr – Part 1 (2017)

Richard Rohr – Part 2 (2017)

Maia Szalavitz on Addiction (Re-Release)

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Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. She is the co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction  

In this paradigm-shifting interview, Maia Szalavitz explains that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder, which is a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing.

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In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss…

  • Her book,  Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction
  • That your brain becomes what it does – that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomes
  • How addiction is a developmental disorder and how learning is critical to addiction
  • The problems with discussion about addiction as a disease
  • Arguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failing
  • Addiction resets your priorities and causes one to make different decisions
  • Addiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequences
  • How illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequences
  • The complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timing
  • The developmental history that gets you to addiction
  • How the drug isn’t the problem and our efforts to get rid of it isn’t a helpful solution
  • Addiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishment
  • The problem with “rock bottom” is it’s not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop.
  • What the motivation is that turns people to recovery
  • How addicts keep using because they can’t see how they can survive any other way
  • Recovery begins when you start to see that there are other options
  • People with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessness
  • The role of hope and other ways of managing their life
  • Addiction as a coping mechanism
  • The pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feast
  • Wanting vs Liking
  • Different motivational states
  • Addiction as escalating wanting
  • Stimulants and chasing that satisfaction
  • The effectiveness and usefulness of 12 Step Programs
  • The role of medicine in a developmental disorder
  • Looking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent.

Maia Szalavitz Links:

maiasz.com

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Hal Gregersen on Asking Better Questions

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Hal Gregersen is the Executive Director of the Leadership Center at MIT. He is a prolific author and motivational speaker recognized by Thinkers 500 as one of the World’s 50 Most Innovative Minds. In this episode, Eric and Hal discuss his book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life. 

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In This Interview, Hal Gregersen and I Discuss…

  • His book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life
  • That whether we know it or not, we’re all living questions
  • Keystone questions
  • Shadow questions
  • How he discovered his questions
  • The heart attack that changed his life
  • His shadow questions
  • Asking better questions
  • Competing Commitments
  • Underlying assumptions
  • Alexander Papaderos
  • How if you want better answers, you’ve got to ask better questions
  • That if you feel stuck you’re probably asking the wrong question
  • Brainstorming questions without answering them
  • Why we don’t ask good questions
  • Catalytic questions that challenge false assumptions
  • How wanting to be right and smart stops us from getting to better questions
  • What if you woke up and asked, what am I dead wrong about today?
  • That if you’re not making big enough mistakes, you’re not trying hard enough
  • The danger of moving into smaller and smaller tribes that are founded on being right
  • Actively seeking passive data – observing and listening
  • The power of the pause
  • Listening to understand vs listening to defend
  • How can I find and reflect the light in you?

Hal Gregersen Links:

halgregersen.com

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Eric Tivers on ADHD in Adults

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Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, coach, podcaster, speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He specializes in ADHD and has worked extensively with individuals on the autism spectrum. His podcast is ADHD reWired and in this episode, Eric and Eric talk about the experience of being an Adult with ADHD.

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In This Interview, Eric Tivers and I Discuss…

  • How he separates “mind” and “brain”
  • ADHD in Adults
  • Impulsivity and Hyperactivity
  • Inattention and Distractibility
  • How people with ADHD aren’t lazy – according to brain scans
  • The diagnostic criteria for ADHD
  • The multimodal treatment approach for ADHD
  • His experience with Adderall
  • The lie of “I’ll remember that”
  • Time wisdom
  • The importance of Exercise, Sleep 
  • Separate decision from action
  • The wisdom in flipping a coin
  • A disorder of self-regulation
  • Accountability
  • The anatomy of a to-do list
  • Vision verbing
  • Why cue
  • Life on hard mode – but we can do hard things

Eric Tivers Links:

ADHDreWired.com

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Cindy Stulberg on Relationships

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Cindy Stulberg is an internationally respected psychologist and is the Director of The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy which provides psychological assessment and counseling for individuals and couples, groups and families and has done so for the past 35 years. In this episode, Cindy and Eric discuss her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy.

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In This Interview, Cindy Stulberg and I Discuss…

  • Her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy 
  • That your relationships hold the key to your happiness
  • Interpersonal Psychotherapy
  • The areas of life that trigger a depressive episode
  • Drawing your social circle and asking questions about them
  • How to build your social circle
  • Conversation starters
  • The difference between feelings and moods
  • Questions for emotional enlightenment
  • Getting input from others when looking to do things differently for them to make things better
  • Paying attention to how you feel 
  • The question: What’s the best, worst and most likely outcome?
  • Linking rigid expectations to happiness
  • How you can’t expect 1 person to meet all your needs

Cindy Stulberg Links:

The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy

Twitter

Facebook

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Claire Booth on Curing Achiever Fever

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Claire Booth is an entrepreneur, author, and speaker. She’s the founder and CEO of the market research firm Lux Insights with two decades of experience serving some of the worlds most recognized brands. In this episode, Eric and Claire discuss her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy.

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In This Interview, Claire Booth and I Discuss…

  • Her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy
  • Her experience of learning to love her bad wolf
  • Keeping her inner house clean
  • The anxiety, depression, and insomnia that came with her constant achieving
  • The difference between achiever fever and achieving
  • I’ll be happy when…
  • The craving mindset of achieving
  • How every leader in her business has a coach
  • The importance of a coach
  • The questions we ask ourselves, the stories we tell ourselves – that we need someone to poke holes in them
  • Her inner critic – the judge
  • The left brain interpreter 
  • Checking your thoughts for truth
  • Asking if your thought could be defended 100% in a court of law
  • Asking yourself, who would I be without that thought?
  • Cognitive Bias
  • Asking yourself “Would my life be better if I wasn’t drinking?”
  • The feeling of worry
  • How she is able to let go of worry

Claire Booth Links:

claireboothauthor.com

Twitter

Instagram

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Adyashanti-Living in the Service of Truth – Part 2

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Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part interview, Eric and Adya continue their conversation about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life.

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In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss…

  • How his relationship to his wife has become more of a mystery over their 23 years together
  • The role of play and being silly
  • How our spiritual striving can get in the way – in meditation, specifically
  • Meditation is the relinquishing of an agenda
  • How we engage with the mystery of being.
  • The curiosity that was sparked when he realized he was a mystery unto himself
  • Spirituality is an experiential encounter with the unknown
  • The paradox we’re embracing with meditation
  • Start meditation by listening to the quiet spaces inside and also let go of trying to control what’s happening in your mind
  • When you realize you’re lost in thought during meditation, gently encourage your attention back to your meditation anchor or listening
  • Observe your relationship with failure – or things going some other way than the way you want them to – during meditation
  • Gratitude for popping out of the dream or trance state 
  • Encountering life attitudes during meditation
  • Spiritual insight during real life – what do you value at any given moment?
  • Chasing a spiritual high
  • Asking “what am I in service to?”
  • Not having to have the feeling in order to engage in right action

Adyshanti Links:

adyashanti.org

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Facebook

Instagram

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If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other Adyashanti episodes:

Adyashanti (Part 1) 2018

Adyashanti (Part 2) 2018

Adyashanti (2017)

Adyashanti on Living in the Service of Truth

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Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire, and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, Eric and Adya talk about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life.

Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss…

  • His book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life
  • Attention and Intention
  • The inquiry at any given time: Where are we giving our attention to?
  • Considering the question: What is worthwhile orienting your life around?
  • The limitations that come with aging 
  • How the definition of happiness changes as we age
  • Wholeness of being
  • Life as it is rather than the image of life
  • Two interpretations of the fact that sometimes those who are the most unhappy tend to be seeking happiness the most
  • Shooting for meaning rather than happiness
  • How meaning is an experience of being
  • The inquiry: What am I in service to?
  • That we don’t seem to do well as human beings when we live exclusively for ourselves
  • What does it mean to really serve what you realize (rather than trying to realize more and more)
  • The mistaken thinking that an act of service must be grand in scale or scope or must be visible to really count or matter
  • How it’s easy to be noble when you are noticed but in most of our lives that’s not what’s taking place
  • That giving time and attention when someone needs it can make for transformative moments
  • Seeing the importance of the things you do in your life now that are in service
  • That you can’t make yourself awaken but what you do DOES have an impact – it’s just indirect
  • The yearning itself comes from the very thing we’re yearning for (in terms of awakening)

Adyshanti Links:

adyashanti.org

Twitter

Facebook

Instagram

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FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box delivered 4 times a year with full-sized beauty, fashion, home, fitness, and wellness products for just $49.99 a box – though the box is valued at more than $200. The summer box is valued at over $400! Eric’s girlfriend absolutely loved the box they sent and has already signed up to receive their fall box. Use the code FEED to get $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com

Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set

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