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Parker Palmer – Reflections from Getting Older

February 12, 2019 By Nicole Silberman Leave a Comment

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Parker Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to many people in many different walks of life. He’s the founder and senior partner in The Center for Courage and Renewal. He’s the author of many books, including his newest one which we talk about on this episode: On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. Parker is one of our favorite guests of the show and after you listen to this episode, you’ll know why he’s back for a second conversation.

In This Interview, Parker Palmer and I Discuss…

His book, On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old
His reflections looking back on his life
The resilient fabric of his life
How perfection is an illusion
The role mistakes can play in one’s life
The gift of age: Looking back on one’s life and saying “It all belongs”
Another gift of age: Deep appreciation and gratitude for the present moment
Feeling like you’re one of the lucky ones that you’re “old”
Asking “What’s there for me to learn?” when facing problematic moments in life (like feeling down, or feeling self-pity)
Moments of life that are burdened with ego
The correlation between ego concerns and anxiety
The importance and role of perspective
The what and why of the things we’re doing
The question (and trap!): Does my life have meaning?
My legacy vs Our legacy
How we’re all embedded in community
“I planted some seeds and found some people I wanted to garden with…”
How life and work are profoundly communal
Reflecting on the question, “Have I been sufficiently open to and aware of the significant contributions others have made in my life – and in such a way to do a deep bow to them in the work that I do?”
Turning attention outward vs inward
Being one among many vs trying to be something or someone special
The healing impact of getting out into the natural world
His poem “Harrowing”
To know when to say, “enough” because the rest of the world and the rest of my life is waiting

Parker Palmer Links

Parker Palmer (First interview)

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Dean Sluyter

February 5, 2019 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Dean Sluyter is an award-winning author who has taught meditation and awakening since 1970. Dean leads workshops, talks and retreats in this U.S. and beyond. His work has been featured in The New York Times, USA Today, and O Magazine.In this episode, Eric and Dean discuss his book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and Addiction.

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In This Interview, Dean Sluyter and I Discuss…

His book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and Addiction
Right View and how it relates to having less fear in your life
How right view is always liberating
Asking, “does it help?”
“One mustn’t assume burdens that God doesn’t lay upon us. The state of worry is not itself meritorious.” CS Lewis
The problem with trying to control your mind
Transcendental Meditation
Hanging out in tasklessness
The open space of awareness
How thought doesn’t have to go away in order to meditate
Relax your grip, and relax back into yourself
It doesn’t grip you, it has no power to do that. You grip it.
What it means to relax at the moment of contact
Relax into it, stop the resistance of it
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional
suffering = pain x resistance

Dean Sluyter Links

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Megan Devine

January 29, 2019 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand

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In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…

Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand
That the way we deal with grief in our culture is broken
How grief is a no-win situation for everyone
The fact that we don’t like to talk about grief
How we carry losses with us
The myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrong
That some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carried
How cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your reality
Our limited tools for going through difficulty
Victim blaming
How we can’t be 100% safe
That we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to things
If we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail us
Sadness isn’t a problem either
How you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”
The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and Validated
The power of listening and curiosity
Thinking of pain as an experience to be tended
The things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escape
Making these difficult things gentler on us
Decreasing suffering inside of grief
Wellness vs. worseness
Paying attention to the cause and effect of things
The hierarchy of grief
Treating compassion as the abundant resource that it is
Hope
Meeting people where they are
Asking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?
Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?
You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from them
The importance of showing yourself kindness

Megan Devine Links

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Jonathan Rauch- The Happiness Curve

January 22, 2019 By Nicole Silberman Leave a Comment

Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.

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In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…

His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50
Connection to others
Generosity
The factors that most contribute to our happiness
The U shape curve of happiness in life
The emotional peak of life
How our expectations change as life goes on
That our values continue to change
The fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetime
How the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durable
The hedonic treadmill
What to do to be happier at the bottom of the curve
The suffering that comes from social comparison
Staying in the present moment
Internal criticism
Guilt vs Shame in mid-life
The benefits of being other-directed, other-oriented
How the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friend

Jonathan Rauch Links

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John Zeratsky on Making Time for What Matters

January 15, 2019 By Nicole Silberman Leave a Comment

After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.

In This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss…

His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day
Understanding the limits on will-power
Setting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisions
Creating more time in your day for the things you care about
The two powerful forces that compete every day for our time
“The Busy Bandwagon”
The Infinity Pools
Questioning the “defaults” in our schedule
Creating a highlight for every day
Living a “someday” life
Finding more meaningful moments
Urgency, Satisfaction, Joy
Batch the little stuff
Laser mode
Taking back control of your time and energy
Creating barriers to distraction
Managing your energy
Building your energy
Focusing on the process not the outcome

John Zeratsky Links

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Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful Poetry

January 8, 2019 By Nicole Silberman Leave a Comment

Marilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them.

In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss…

Her book, How I Discovered Poetry
Her poem, Mississippi
Her book, A Wreath for Emmett Till
The poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnets
Her poem, Rosemary for Remembrance
Her poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a Wreath
Her poem, Like His Gouged Eye
How poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silence
The value of silence in a life well lived
Silence, contemplation, and self-knowledge
Our quiet center
Her book, Carver
Her poem, Professor Carver’s Bible Class
Her book, Snook Alone

Marilyn Nelson Links

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Roger Housden on Poetry for Difficult Times

January 1, 2019 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Roger Housden is a second time guest on the show – you might remember him from episode 152. He founded The Open Gate which is a conference and workshop center in England that introduced the work of Ram Dass and Thich Nhat Hanh and many others into Europe. You also might have seen his work featured in places like O Magazine, The New York Times and The Los Angeles Times. In this episode, Roger and Eric discuss his beautiful book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times.

In This Interview, Roger Housden and I Discuss…

His book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times
Saying “there is happiness happening” or “there is anger happening” rather than “I am angry” or “I am happy”
How poetry helps us in difficult times
That poetry gives voice to that which is unsayable
The poet Ellen Bass
How suffering can soften us if we bow down to it
That you can’t fake surrender
The opportunity in suffering is growth
How poetry points us in the direction of possibility in suffering
The poet Maggie Smith
The poet Marie Howe
Annunciation by Marie Howe
The specific pointing to the universal in poetry

Roger Housden Links

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Steven C Hayes

December 25, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Steven C Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He is an author of over 35 books and over 500 scientific articles. He is considered one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world. His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies.

He is best known for his book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

In This Interview, Steven C Hayes and I Discuss…

The One You Feed parable
His book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life
The ACT approach to therapy
That you know if your thoughts are good or bad by the fruits that they bear
The difference between pain and suffering
The importance of putting the human mind on a leash
That suffering comes from when we mishandle the present moment, and we amplify certain thoughts and feelings
The meaning of Cognitive Fusion: when we can look only from our thoughts and not at our thoughts
The importance of and various types of contemplative practice
Various diffusion techniques (listed in a free episode download!)
The concept and practice of experiential avoidance
The full impact of acting for “short term gains with long term pains”
The idea of creating larger behavioral patterns
The role of values based action

Steven C Hayes Links