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How to Choose Kindness with Adrienne Bankert

February 23, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Adrienne Bankert is an Emmy award-winning national news correspondent for ABC News, covering some of the most historic headlines of the past decade. She calls herself a “tour guide” – coaching and mentoring, teaching and speaking across the U.S. Her new book is called, Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You With Anyone. 

In this episode, Eric and Adrienne talk about what it means to be kind – how to practice it, cultivate it within yourself, and how it can serve as your beacon and guide no matter the circumstances that come your way.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Adrienne Bankert and I discuss How to Choose Kindness and…

  • Her book, Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You With Anyone
  • How helping others discover their purpose can also help you discover your own
  • That kindness helps us turn away from self-focus and towards a focus on the needs of others 
  • The way kindness can be at the core of our identity
  • Choosing kindness even when you don’t feel it
  • How to grow in kindness
  • Ways to respond kindly to people who are unkind to you
  • Her favorite stories of kindness
  • That kindness can be an anchor to us when we’re struggling or lost
  • Practical ways to practice kindness

Adrienne Bankert Links:

Adrienne’s Website

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Adrienne Bankert on How to Choose Kindness, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Donna Cameron on Kindness

Shauna Shapiro

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The Energy of Emotions with Ralph De La Rosa

February 16, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Ralph De La Rosa is a psychotherapist in private practice and a seasoned meditation instructor.  His work has been featured in The New York Post,CNN, Tricycle, GQ, SELF, Women’s Health, and many other publications and podcasts. Ralph regularly leads immersive healing retreats at Omega Institute, Spirit Rock, and Kripalu. His newest book is Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs.

In this episode, Eric and Ralph talk about the energy of emotions and how bringing awareness and compassion to our strong emotions creates resilience within us.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Ralph De La Rosa and I discuss The Energy of Emotions and…

  • His book,  Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs 
  • How we are hard-wired for anxiety, fear, and anger
  • Compassion is needed for the negative energies within us
  • The two kinds of suffering, the one you turn toward and the other your turn towards
  • Turning away from suffering and turning towards suffering
  • Allowing our anger to come up, then mindfully speak for that anger
  • Bringing awareness to strong emotions
  • Listening and acknowledging your inner critic helps the anger move on
  • The internal family systems (IFS) model of identifying all the parts of us here
  • How emotions are a living energy within you
  • Giving form and naming these emotions brings clarity
  • The inner critic is a defensive energy that is trying to keep us safe
  • How suffering points us to compassion
  • Meditation is a training in remembering (to remember)
  • Setting reminders on phone or post-it notes on the mirror are tools to bring meditation practice into our daily lives
  • Radical non-pathology is viewing symptoms as your body’s way of trying to working something out and not as problems.
  • Curiosity is an extension of our basic wholeness
  • Self is an ecosystem, where every part works together to produce longevity and vitality
  • How everything in our world is trying to reflect ourselves back to us
  • Understanding that anger is intelligent and how we have the power to not pass on our anger

Ralph De La Rosa Links:

Ralph’s Website

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Ralph De La Rosa on the Energy of Emotions, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Ralph De La Rosa on the Mind as Your Teacher (2018)

Understanding Emotions with Susan David

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Meditation for Anxious People with Lodro Rinzler

February 9, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Lodro Rinzler is the co-founder of MNDFL meditation studios, has taught meditation for 20 years in the Tibetan Buddhist tradition, and is the award-winning author of 7 books. He has spoken across the world at conferences, universities, and businesses as diverse as Google, Harvard University, and the White House.

In this episode, Eric and Lodro talk about his new book, Take Back Your Mind: Buddhist Advice for Anxious Times and they walk through many practical strategies to employ on the spot when you’re feeling stressed or anxious to help you come back to a sense of “okay-ness” in the present moment.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Lodro Rinzler and I discuss Meditation for Anxious People and…

  • His book, Take Back Your Mind: Buddhist Advice for Anxious Times
  • The difference between anxiety and stress
  •  Useful vs Not Useful thinking
  • What to do when thoughts come up during meditation
  • The question “Is this helpful?”
  • The question “Is this useful?”
  • Discovering what happens when we unhook from anxious thoughts
  • How to deliberately experience “30 seconds of contentment”
  • Dispelling the myth that your mind is too busy to meditate
  • Buddhists connecting our faith as being rooted in our direct experience
  • How turning a boat one degree at a time leads to a completely different land
  • Working with your mind vs your mind working you
  • Meditating without judging ourselves
  • Learning to be with difficult emotions through meditation
  • Saying to yourself, “It’s ok to feel this”
  • What it means to drop the story and feel the feeling
  • Asking yourself, “What can I enjoy right now?”
  • What it means to have a “thought party”
  • The idea of “basic goodness”
  • The metaphor of going to get a box of cereal from the grocery store when you already have a cupboard full 

Lodro Rinzler Links:

lodrorinzler.com

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Lodro Rinzler on Meditation for Anxious People, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Lodro Rinzler (Episode from 2014)

Hardcore Zen with Brad Warner

Filed Under: Featured, Meditation & Mindfulness, Podcast Episode

Improvising in Life with Stephen Nachmanovitch

February 2, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Stephen Nachmanovitch performs and teaches internationally as an improvisational violinist and at the intersection of music, dance, theatre, and multimedia arts. Stephen has presented masterclasses and workshops at Julliard and many conservatories and universities. 

In this episode, Stephen and Eric discuss his new book, The Art of Is: Improvising as a Way of Life, which is an exploration of the creative process, especially the social dimensions of the creative process and a philosophical meditation on living, living fully, and living in the present.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Stephen Nachmanovitch and I Discuss Improvising in Life and…

  • His book, The Art of Is: Improvising as a Way of Life
  • That creativity is absolutely worthless without an ethical foundation
  • The ethics of creativity
  • Buddhism and creativity
  • Why improvisation is so important to him
  • His interest in the creative process across all fields
  • That the template for improvisation is conversation
  • The role of listening and equality in improvisational music
  • The relationship between impermanence, imperfection, and improvisation
  • The relationship between chivalry and the phrase “yes, and…”
  • That play isn’t what you do, it’s how you do it
  • The relationship between discipline and freedom
  • Art as the act of balancing
  • How self correction is a lot easier without the added burden of guilt
  • The metaphor of a child learning to walk and the approach of “positive feedback only”
  • What it means to “stamp out nouns”
  • That when you create something that’s “original” it means, simply, that you are the origin

Stephen Nachmanovitch Links:

freeplay.com

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Stephen Nachmanovitch on Improvising in Life, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Finding Your Creativity with Julia Cameron

Power of Poetry with Ellen Bass

Ralph White

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Mindfulness for Depression with Dr. Stuart Eisendrath

January 26, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Dr. Stuart Eisendrath is the founding Director of the University of California San Francisco Depression Center where he served as the Professor of Psychiatry.  His newest book is When Antidepressants Aren’t Enough:  Harnessing the Power of Mindfulness to Alleviate Depression. This book aims to take the reader through steps they can utilize to gain relief from depression and anxiety.

In this episode, Dr. Eisendrath and Eric discuss his new book about how mindfulness can help alleviate depression when anti-depressants aren’t enough.

If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. 

To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Dr. Stuart Eisendrath and I discuss Mindfulness for Depression and…

  • His book, When Antidepressants Aren’t Enough:  Harnessing the Power of Mindfulness to Alleviate Depression
  • Changing the relationship with depressive thoughts from dominating presence to peaceful coexistence 
  • Learning to interpret our thoughts in a different way
  • Dealing with self-criticism
  • Ruminating and how being stuck in the downward spiral leads to more depression
  • The simple meditation practice of counting each breath 
  • When the thoughts are creating an internal storm
  • How the most powerful thoughts are usually our own ideas that we’re applying in the present
  • Determining the difference between facts and thoughts
  • False evidence and the importance of gathering more information to see if it’s true
  • Asking if there are other explanations to explain these feelings
  • The trap of depression: thinking we’ll act when we feel better and how we actually feel better once we act.
  • Taking action when we don’t feel like it
  • The importance of movement and being active when depressed
  • Happiness equals achievements divided by expectations
  • How depression can create distorted views 
  • Changing perspective by focusing on very small actions
  • Replacing the thought of  “I should…” with “it would be nice if…”
  • How mindfulness brings us into the present moment
  • How depressive thoughts are about the past and anxious thoughts are about the future
  • Resistance amplifies emotional pain and increases suffering
  • Thinking of feeling depressed as the weather 

Dr. Stuart Eisendrath Links:

stuarteisendrath.com

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Stuart Eisendrath on Mindfulness to Alleviate Depression, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Mindfulness and Depression with Elisha Goldstein

Jonathan Rottenberg on Depression

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Writing for Healing with Maggie Smith

January 19, 2021 Leave a Comment

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Maggie Smith is a poet whose work has been widely published, anthologized, and has appeared in Best American Poetry, the New York Times, The New Yorker and elsewhere.  Her latest book, Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change, a collection of essays and quotes, is a national bestseller.

In this episode, Maggie and Eric discuss this new book and how for her, writing poetry is having a conversation with herself, problem solving, and healing on paper.

If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. 

To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Maggie Smith and I discuss Writing for Healing and…

  • Her book, Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change
  • The dark time in her life that gave birth to her growth
  • How hope is imaginative and necessary if you’re to come out of difficulty
  • The role of endurance in healing
  • Gratitude as a practice even in the darkest times
  • That big life changes are often identity issues that cause us to ask “who am I now?”
  • Another meaning to the phrase “it’s always something!”
  • The reality that we pave the path of the future one step at a time
  • Her experience as a recovering pessimist
  • The difference between her poetry and her essays
  • The role of setting in her poetry
  • How it never feels good in the long run to have done the wrong thing
  • Post Traumatic Growth

Maggie Smith Links:

maggiesmithpoet.com

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Twitter

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Maggie Smith on Writing for Healing, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Writing as a Path to Awakening with Albert Flynn DeSilver

Power of Poetry with Ellen Bass

Filed Under: Featured, Podcast Episode

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