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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

Josh Korda: Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion

July 31, 2018 by Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Josh Korda is the guiding teacher of Dharma Punx in NYC and a fully empowered Buddhist teacher in the Against the Stream lineage. He has led numerous online and residential retreats and is also widely known for his podcast and as an author. His new book is called Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to Truth. In this conversation with Eric, he talks about how to make changes in your life and he bases much of what he has to say on this topic on his Buddhist principals and own life experience. It’s a comprehensive look at how we as humans can experience the impermanence of life. Since we all face this impermanence, it’s a pretty important thing to grow more skillful in the way we interact with it.

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In This Interview, Josh Korda and I Discuss…

His book, Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to Truth
How he deals with his depression
Western mindfulness practice
How it’s not about always accepting or settling for toxic circumstances
How it’s not about always running away from healthy yet difficult circumstances
The wisdom to know what to do with difficulty in the moment
How to make significant life changes (based on his experience doing just that)
Being willing to set boundaries
Making change by talking harshly oneself only creates stress and you then associate the stress with the goal itself and you begin to procrastinate
How our inner critic makes us want to avoid the very things we want to grow into
Thought arrives after feeling and impulses
Ways to change behavior without relying on thought
“Corrective emotional response”
The importance of an empathetic, safe therapist in effective therapy

Josh Korda Links

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

Anne Bogel on Seeing the World Through Personality

July 24, 2018 by Eric Zimmer 4 Comments

Anne Bogel is an author, podcast host, avid reader and personality assessment expert. That’s what you’ll see when you read her new book, How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything. In this interview, Eric and Anne cover a lot of ground; from book recommendations to the value and application of personality tests. If you are at all interested in personal growth, this episode will excite and inspire you to use valid personality tests as a tool to fuel that endeavor. If you’ve written off personality tests in the past, we encourage you to revisit the topic with an open mind as you listen to this episode. You may think differently 45 minutes from now.

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In This Interview, Anne Bogel and I Discuss…

Her book, Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything
Recent fiction books that she’s read that she loved
How we all have pain during the course of our lives
The joy of reading literary fiction
What is personality?
The coping strategies we learn vs fundamental personality changes
How our mind is inclined to work
The way we see things
Taking a personality test and answering questions based on how we want to be vs how we really are
That if you don’t know how you’re really like, you can’t move forward and grow as a person
Common thoughts, feelings and behavior = our personality type
Our character and our behavior are two things we can impact and change within ourselves with a lot of effort
Personality tests not being a limiting thing
Putting your strengths to work for you
Putting effort towards things we can change vs things we can’t change
I’m the kind of person who _____ being a powerful phrase
Fixed vs Growth mindset
Highly sensitive people
The emotional bank account
Introverts vs Extroverts
What you do consistently over time matters
the 5:1 ratio when it comes to positive and negative experiences
The Enneagram – https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

Anne Bogel Links

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

Culadasa on How the Mind Works Part 2

July 17, 2018 by Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he’s ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works – knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind.

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In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss…

His book, The Mind Illuminated
The power of setting an intention for meditation
Getting all of the mind on board for meditating
Accepting whatever comes up
Trying to enjoy your meditation, celebrating the times you come back to the present moment vs scolding yourself
Roadmap of the stages of meditation over time
How knowing the developmental nature of things over time can be problematic
The difficulties of being a beginner at anything
Looking for the pleasure and joy in wherever you are
The 4 step process of settling in to meditate
Feeling your breath at the nose
The Mindful Review
Being aware of the motivation behind your thoughts and speech
What could I have done differently?

Culadasa Links

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

Culadasa Part 1-How Our Minds Work

July 11, 2018 by Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

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In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss…

His book, The Mind Illuminated
How the mind and the brain works
The basic distinction between attention and awareness
How when we give labels to something we can know and understand it better
The moments of consciousness model
Non-perceiving moments of consciousness
The dullness of meditation
Sleepiness in meditation
The goal of vipassana is to increase the total power of our cognitive abilities
The mind system model (how the mind works)
The conscious and unconscious mind
Sensory sub-mind (taking in info through senses)
Discriminating sub-mind (cognitive thinking/feeling)
These sub-minds are competing for attention
The conscious mind is a place that the sub-minds project into
The power of setting intentions on the sub-minds
The role of the narrating sub-mind
We are a collection of the processes of the sub-minds
Making intellectual sense of the experience of not-self

Culadasa Links

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

Amoda Maa on Living Your Awakening

July 3, 2018 by Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Amoda Maa is a contemporary spiritual teacher and author. You may recognize the titles of some of her books: How to Find God in Everything, Change Your Life Change Your World and Radical Awakening. Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment, is a powerful look at what awakening means, looks like and feels in your everyday life. She stresses that you can’t think your way into awakening but that rather you feel your way into it. During this interview she talks about what that means and how to do it.

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In This Interview, Amoda Maa and I Discuss…

Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment
Awakening
Waking up out of the dream of separation
Waking up out of the dream of thinking that we are our thoughts and feelings
Awakening not dependant on or a precursor to one’s psychological health
Surrendering the need to uphold oneself
Surrendering the psychological self
The need for psychological safety giving rise to egoic tendencies
The defense and attack found in righteousness
The verticality of being
Not having an agenda of the outcome when opening ourselves to our experience and meeting it as it is
How to be free from suffering
The strength of life’s intelligence
The ripening that happens within oneself when you’ve finally had enough of running away from pain
No real relief from pain and no final freedom from pain when all you’re doing is running away from it
Am I willing to meet this exactly as it is?
Trying not to try
True fulfillment is the emptying of the spiritual shopping basket
The paradox of trying not to try
Accumulating agendas = committing to a particular spiritual path and expecting that you’ll feel worthy and good enough
Love is seeking to know itself
Silence is ever present in everything

Amoda Maa Links

Lost Connections Homepage

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

234: Johan Hari – Lost Connections

June 26, 2018 by Eric Zimmer 2 Comments

Johann Hari is an author and a journalist. His previous book was a New York Times Best Seller and his newest, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions, is no doubt on its way to share the same status. It proposes a more holistic, societal look at the causes and treatment of depression – more than the singular chemical imbalance explanation we traditionally consider. The core principal of getting our needs met is a thread that runs throughout this discussion and the deep dive that Johann Hari does on the subject will fascinate you and cause you to stop and think very differently than you have before on this topic that affects so many people in this world.

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In This Interview, Johann Hari and I Discuss…

His new book, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions
The two kinds of human connection
Intrinsic (internal) and extrinsic (external) motivations
“Junk” values
The more you’re driven by extrinsic values, the more likely you’ll suffer from anxiety and depression in your life
Our society drives us to live in this extrinsic way
The whole point of advertising is to make us feel inadequate and our problems can be solved by buying
Extrinsic motives can crowd out the more fulfilling intrinsic motives
The 9 causes of depression and anxiety
The need to look more holistically at anxiety and depression than just a chemical imbalance
That the book is NOT saying not to take medications that help with anxiety and depression
The loneliest culture that has ever been
The importance of addressing the deep environmental factors/reasons why we’re so depressed and anxious
Our sense of home and sense of belonging
The problems manifested by being isolated and alone
The benefit of being part of a “tribe”
Realizing that you’re not the only one who struggles and feels the way you do
Grief and the diagnosis of depression
Just having a chemical imbalance means your pain doesn’t have meaning
Depression and not having your needs met
Following the pain to its source
Pathologizing Depression

Johann Hari Links

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

233: Susan Piver

June 12, 2018 by Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan’s second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don’t have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level.

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In This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss…

Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships
The emotions underneath fear, hatred and greed
Depression being a calcified sadness
Turning towards sadness
The four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There’s a threefold path to do all of this
Feeling your feelings without the story – what does it feel like in your body? In the environment?
The difference between anger and irritation in the body
The enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve “this” problem, the relationship will stabilize and we’ll be happy
Look at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one another
The threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyond
The role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationships
Good manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your words
Opening to the other person as they are in a relationship
Intimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover more
In a relationship, commit to intimacy over love
Addiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship!
How you can’t think your way into intimacy or inspiration – they come when you make the space
Passion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problem
Wishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, however
Relax with what is and a space will open up
Her take on suffering
Her beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachment
A spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it is
Your life IS the spiritual path
In meditation we’re not trying to get anywhere, we’re trying to BE somewhere
Meditating in’t about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment

Susan Piver Links

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

232: Michael Pollan

June 5, 2018 by Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

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Michael Pollan is a writer whose books have topped the New York Times bestseller list time and time again. He teaches writing at Harvard and The University of California Berkley. In 2010, Time magazine name Michael Pollan one of the most influential people in the world. His books and essays have historically focused on our interaction with nature and this new book takes that theme to a whole other level. Its title gives you a great idea of what it’s about: How to Change your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence. No matter how many interviews you’ve heard of Michael Pollan talking about his new book, our interview will offer you a fresh perspective, things he has not previously discussed and things that you may not have previously considered. The very last concept discussed in Eric’s conversation with Michael Pollan will for sure leave you thinking anew.

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In This Interview, Michael Pollan and I Discuss…

His book, How to Change your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence
How fear is a big motivator in people’s action and inaction
That your obstacles are all between your ears
How consciousness is a big mystery
What the newest science tells us about psychedelics
The way psychedelics affect us by allowing us to look at normal, everyday consciousness in new ways
The default mode network going quiet during a psychedelic trip
The ego, idea of self in the brain and our life
Psychedelics impact on the sense of self
The experience of the dissolution of the ego
The mind-expanding power of mystical experience
The theory of the entropic brain
How the brain works to reduce uncertainty and surprise
The narrowing of consciousness by rigid thinking
The stories our brains tell us
Insufficient entropy in the brain perhaps leading to mental illnesses
Psychedelics disordering the brain
The similarities between a tripping brain on psychedelics and a meditative brain
An ego-free state of consciousness through the use of psychedelics
The mistake of seeing spirituality as the opposite of materialism
The opposite of spiritual being egotistical
The ego keeps us from having a deep connection with everything around us
How psychedelics are “wasted on the young”
That those in the 2nd half of their lives may benefit most from the use of psychedelics
The importance of breaking the rigidity that growing older brings
How psychedelics can help us make peace with our death
Psilocybin benefiting those facing imminent death with great fear
How psychedelics and a psychodynamic approach are not opposites
“Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy”
Positive trauma in the brain
Administering an experience rather than a drug
The importance of set and setting when taking a psychedelic
How a spiritual experience alone doesn’t make a spiritual life
That ego is nothing but a contraction

Michael Pollan Links