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James Clear on the Compounding Nature of Habits Part 1

October 23, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, he talks about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. It’s a fascinating and educational discussion surrounding how to work with yourself and your habits to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change. Everyone can benefit from listening to the wisdom in this episode. Enjoy.

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In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…

His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones
How habits can compound for you or against you
That small changes don’t seem to matter much in the moment
The 4 Laws of Behavior Change
Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your efforts
How bamboo is like habits
You need to build a foundation to see results
How work isn’t wasted, it’s stored
Focusing on systems rather than goals
How the outcome is a natural consequence of habits
That goals restrict your happiness
The role of identity in behavior change
How you choose to act is a vote towards the kind of person you want to be
Putting your identity on the back burner while you accrue some evidence
Growth vs Fixed Mindset
How humans are learning machines
The 4 Stages of Habits
How you interpret the cues in your life determines how you respond to them
The toolbox for breaking and building habits

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Re-Release: Dr. Gabor Mate on Addiction

October 16, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

This week we talk to Dr. Gabor Mate´about addiction

A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.

For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site.

As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.

Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focusses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.

Dr. Maté has received the Hubert Evans Prize for Literary Non-Fiction; an Honorary Degree (Law) from the University of Northern British Columbia; an Outstanding Alumnus Award from Simon Fraser University; and the 2012 Martin Luther King Humanitarian Award from Mothers Against Teen Violence. He is an adjunct professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University.

In This Interview, Dr. Gabor Mate´and I Discuss…

The One You Feed parable
The degree of choice we have in life
What is the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts?
What is addiction?
The characteristics of addiction
Recognizing what addicts get out of their addiction
The fundamental question is not “Why the Addiction” but “Why the Pain”
How all addiction comes out of some hurt or trauma
The different types of trauma
The role of neurotransmitters in addiction
How drugs and alcohol destroy the parts of the brain that allow us to make sound decisions
Whether or not genetics play a significant role in addiction
Whether our culture breeds addiction
How our children get most of their leadership from other children
How the breakup of family, community and clan is contributing to addiction
The critical role of the culture in our the development of our brains
Recognizing our inherent value
To what degree we have freedom over our choices
Without consciousness, there is no freedom
Paths to recovery
How compassion can help with recovery
Developing compassionate curiosity towards ourselves

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Re-Release: Tara Brach

October 9, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

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Tara Brach is an American psychologist and proponent of Buddhist meditation. She is a guiding teacher and founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, D.C Brach also teaches Buddhist meditation at centers for meditation and yoga in the United States and Europe including Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, California, the Kripalu Center,and the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies.

Brach is an engaged Buddhist specializing in the application of Buddhist teachings to emotional healing. Her 2003 book, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha, focuses on the use of practices such as mindfulness for healing trauma. Her 2013 book, True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart, offers practices for tapping into inner peace and wisdom in the midst of difficulty.

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In This Interview, Tara Brach and I Discuss…

The One You Feed parable
Being kind to the parts of ourselves that are more primitive
The difference between feelings and thoughts
Dropping the storyline
The question of “What am I unwilling to feel?”
How we have to go through the difficult emotions to get to peace
The importance of remembering the good
Not being addicted to suffering
The habit of looking for what’s wrong
What’s the moment like if there is no problem
How we tend to always anticipate a problem
How we are almost always lost in thought
Practicing coming into our senses
Self-compassion as the most important quality on the spiritual path
Only being taught one type of meditation
Trying different types of meditation until we find the one that works best for us
The quality that helps people progress on the path of meditation: intention
How to deal with numbness
Tara’s tips on dealing with depression
How depression hates a moving target
That depression is not our fault
Finding refuge in difficult times
Instead of asking “What’s the Meaning” asking “What matters to me here”

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Dorothy Hunt on The Heart of Awareness

October 2, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Dorothy Hunt serves as the spiritual director of the Moon Mountain Sangha, teaching the spiritual lineage of Adyshanti. She is also the founder of the San Francisco Center for Meditation and Psychotherapy where she has practiced since 1967. She has several published works, the most recent being her book, Ending the Search: From Spiritual Ambition to the Heart of Awareness. We think you’ll find her teachings profound, liberating and refreshing. In this episode, she and Eric discuss what it means and looks like to awaken to our true reality. She dropped some truth bombs on us and if you listen to the conversation, we think they’ll land on you as well.

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In This Interview, Dorothy Hunt and I Discuss…

Her book, Ending the Search: From Spiritual Ambition to the Heart of Awareness
How we carry the seeds of everything within us – which do we water with our attention?
That everything is an “inside job”
Her focus of awakening to our true reality
What spiritual ambition means
The role of self-inquiry in awakening to who/what we really are
A unified reality
Desire, effort, and grace
Intensity taking the place for ambition
Staying put in the not knowing
Staying put in the silence
Expansion and contraction in life
The error of thinking that our spirituality has to look a certain way
Alternatives to silence as your soul food
Asking ourselves the question: What is the deepest desire of my heart?
Asking the follow-up question: And what will that bring? to get to the deepest desire
Following your own inner teacher, your inner guidance
That happiness is temporarily stopping wanting to be somewhere else
That Adyashanti gave her nothing
The sword that cuts through illusion
When truth is moving it’s not asking permission
When we want the truth more than we want life to look a certain way we find it

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Miguel Chen on Punk Rock and Buddhism

September 25, 2018 By Eric Zimmer 2 Comments

Miguel Chen is a meditation practitioner, a yoga instructor, a yoga studio owner and the bass player for a punk rock band. He has also published a book called I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can Too. In this compelling episode, Eric and Miguel explore the connection between punk rock and Buddhism and they dive into the experiences in his life – both traumatic and positive – that have shaped his spiritual path of awakening.

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In This Interview, Miguel Chen and I Discuss…

His book, I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can Too
How he owns a yoga studio and plays in a punk rock band
The way he suppressed grief for dead family members
Asking himself why he wasn’t happy
The connection between punk rock and Buddhism
The other as self
Forgetting who we are
The importance of being mindful throughout life
Not being present with stuff we like
Not being present with stuff we don’t like
Eating mindfully
How if you’re used to disconnecting from things you don’t like, it starts creeping into the things you do like
How he stays in the present moment
Training the mind
His morning routine
Non-attachment
Being criticized for his spiritual practice
His spiritual practice while on tour
The danger of taking people in life for granted
How grateful he is that he woke up early in his life
Why some people get motivated to get sober and others don’t

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Julie Simon on Emotional Eating

September 18, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Julie Simon is a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and certified personal trainer with over 30 years of experience in helping overeaters and imbalanced eaters mend their relationship with their feelings and ultimately themselves. She’s also the founder of the popular Los Angels based 12-week emotional eating recovery program. She’s the author of the book When Food is Comfort: Nurture Yourself Mindfully, Rewire Your Brain and End Emotional Eating. In this interview, Julie teaches what’s at the root of emotional eating and the specific steps you can take to build the skills you need to regulate your emotions.

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In This Interview, Julie Simon and I Discuss…

Her book, When Food is Comfort: Nurture Yourself Mindfully, Rewire Your Brain and End Emotional Eating
That the most common cause of emotional overeating is difficulty regulating our emotions, moods, thoughts, and behaviors
Disconnecting from our emotions being at the root of emotional overeating
Relating to our feelings
Early interactions with our caregivers
Regulating Our Emotions = Our ability to manage our emotions and moods (and regulate our nervous system) so we can control or redirect impulses in our behaviors, thinking before we act
Attunement and Attachment
Self-medicating
Resourcefulness in regulating our brain chemistry
Missing self-care skills
Being stuck in an earlier phase of development
Inner indulging voice
The 7 skills involved in inner nurturing
Exploring our emotions and bodily sensations
Our tendency to move away from unpleasant emotions by focusing on our thoughts
Emotion presents in the body first (before we have words for them)
Real recovery is experiencing and moving through emotions
Soothing behaviors to restore ourselves to calm:
- Noticing breath
- Tense and relax parts of the body
- Getting in comfortable clothes
- Listening to soothing music
- Soothing gestures
- Laying down in the fetal position
The goal is not to distract yourself
The goal is to calm down enough to pop the hood
Telling ourselves that it’s ok to feel the way we feel
Validating the feeling not the behavior
Having compassion for oneself

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Scott Edelstein on Finding a Spiritual Teacher

September 11, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Scott Edelstein is a student of and friend to many great spiritual teachers. A longtime practitioner of both the Buddhist and Jewish traditions, he is a proponent of serious spirituality in all forms and traditions. He’s a published author in many important spiritual journals and his newest book is called The User’s Guide to Spiritual Teachers. It is so important to have a discerning eye when it comes to choosing spiritual teachers in your life but what do you actually look for, what red flags do you recognize and what is their role in your life, specifically? These questions and more are discussed and answered in this informative, wise and practical conversation.

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In This Interview, Scott Edelstein and I Discuss…

His book, The User’s Guide to Spiritual Teachers
That fear is both good and bad
That spiritual teachers are human too
That enlightenment isn’t some threshold to be crossed
The nature of maturation
If we pay attention, as we grow older, we grow wiser
How if you live with a belief long enough, it seems pretty commonplace
The importance of not giving someone else your power
The danger of a spiritual teacher who wants something from you or wants to make decisions for you
The importance of using your own discernment when working with spiritual teachers
What to do if you feel you can’t trust yourself
Thinking of your spiritual teacher as a professor at a university
The borning nature of spiritual practice
Our addiction to control and the necessity of realizing we’re not in control
The ability to change
The willingness to change
The role of spiritual teachers and personal change

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Brandi Lust on Growth via the Present Moment

September 4, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Brandi Lust is the founder of Learning Lab Consulting which is focused on mindful, creative growth both at the individual level as well as at the large group and corporate level. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her book, Myths of Being Human: Four Paths to Connecting to What Matters. In their conversation, they cover important and very real topics such as how to grow through suffering, being alive and present in the moment and operating from a state of flow. You may be familiar with these topics on some level, but regardless of your starting point, you’ll dive deeper into them through listening to this episode.

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In This Interview, Brandi Lust and I Discuss…

Her book, Myths of Being Human: Four Paths to Connecting to What Matters
Four myths we have as people
We are not rational creatures, we are emotional creatures
The way we interact with the moment
How if your metric is external, it’s never enough
The tools she uses to operate from a state of flow
How suffering has an important place on the spiritual path
That we hold past trauma in our bodies
Emotional Residue
Feeling it all in the moment so you don’t have to carry it around with you
That pain in life isn’t personal – it’s a natural part of the human experience
Post Traumatic Growth
Making meaning from our difficult experiences
Having a belief system of something larger than yourself
Can we grow without suffering?
Experiencing awe in the moment
Secondary Post Traumatic Growth through empathy and understanding
Psychological safety
Self-transcendence

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Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity and Meditation

August 28, 2018 By Eric Zimmer 3 Comments

Chris Bailey ran a year-long productivity project where he studied and ran experiments on the subject. To date, he’s written hundreds of articles on the topic which have been published in places like the Huffington Post, The New York Times and LifeHacker. In this episode, Chris and Eric discuss his new book, Hyperfocus: How to Be More Productive in a World of Distraction and they cover many topics and techniques to improve your focus and productivity. In addition to being a lovely person, he is also a true expert on this topic and you’ll walk away with useful information, no matter how productive you are to begin with.

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In This Interview, Chris Bailey and I Discuss…

His new book, Hyperfocus: How to Be More Productive in a World of Distraction
That what we notice is what we become
The state of our attention determines the state of our lives
The hourly awareness chime
How our mind gravitates to things that are any of these three things: pleasurable, threatening or novel
The measures he uses to determine the quality of attention: how long we can hold our focus, how long our mind wanders, how much of our time we can spend with intention
How we feel when we use our time well
The pain of using time wastefully
The Rule of 3 (Daily, Weekly, Monthly, Yearly)
Text Expander
The natural rhythm of our attention
Being kind to our mind
Our minds are built to wander
Approaching our wandering minds with curiosity
Keeping a distractions list
Scatter focus

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Terry Patten on Inner-work and Outer-work

August 21, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Terry Patten is an international speaker and consultant as a community organizer, philosopher, and teacher. He has founded multiple non-profits and social movements for causes that serve the greater good. In this episode, Terry and Eric discuss his new book which deals with the intersection of being all you can be (self-growth) and helping others (social activism). He argues that you can’t fulfill either without addressing both (and we tend to agree!). If you’d like to know more about different forms of activism, how you can be both focused on your inner-world AND the outer-world, and thinking in terms of both AND rather than either OR, then this episode is for you.

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In This Interview, Terry Patten and I Discuss…

His new book, A New Republic of the Heart: An Ethos for Revolutionaries–A Guide to Innerwork for Holistic Change
How the bad wolf is often a shapeshifter
Interrogating the good wolf to confirm identity!
Inner work and outer work
Self-focus preventing activism
Our moral obligation to engage in activism
Different forms of activism
In the system, against the system and around the system types of activism
Being all you can be and helping others – can’t fulfill either without addressing both
As a species, we’re both getting better and perched on a cliff of perilous danger
Your attention is like a flashlight beam and awareness is like sunlight flooding a room
Thinking in both and terms rather than either or terms
Can we get to 10% of the world’s population being at a higher level of awakening?
Going from a seeker to a practitioner
A seeker is grounded in lack, residing from a sense of what’s missing
A presence in wholeness, relaxing into our wholeness
Recognition relieving one of the momentum of lack
A surrender and trust of being that is the soul of sanity
Neurons that fire together, wire together reinforces the importance of practice
We’re always practicing something – what are you practicing right now?
We can always begin again now
Relational Practices
Expressing our inner-work through our outer-work

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