In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…
- The Wolf Parable
- Her book, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober
- The challenge of training our brains to look for the good stuff in life
- The question: Would my life be better sober? instead of Am I an alcoholic?
- Rock bottom being a different place for different people at different times
- The challenge of moderation
- The beautiful clarity of zero
- The limbic system in distress with indecision
- Controlling vs Enjoying drinking
- Alcohol being like a cheat code in a video game when it comes to inhibition
- That no one regrets being sober
- The awful feelings at the beginning of getting sober are what you feel like because of the drinking, not the getting sober
- Learning the skills to enjoy life sober
- Addictive voice recognition
- Negative Thought Patterns:
- Children in a car
- Bird watching
- That there are many different ways to get sober
- How expectations are resentments under construction
- Day counting in being sober
- I don’t vs I can’t
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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed
The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee Indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.
This parable goes by many names including:
The Tale of Two Wolves
The Parable of the Two Wolves
Which Wolf Do You Feed
Which Wolf are You Feeding
Which Wolf Will You Feed
It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs
Thank you so much Amy!! have a nice week
Thank you for reading, Okasor.
I visited the blog that Catherine mentioned in her interview, tired of thinking about drinking. It is a wonderful resource, I was amazed! I accepted the 100 day challenge and am looking forward to being a part of that community of people. Thanks Catherine, loved your interview.