Catherine Gray is a listener favorite guest on the show. She’s been on once before to talk about her book, The Unexpected Joy of being Sober and we received so many messages about how people loved the conversation Eric had with her. In this episode, she’s here to discuss her new book, The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity. Are you single? Then obviously this episode is for you. Are you in a relationship? Then – unexpectedly – this episode is also for you! Too often, people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone. You don’t want to feel trapped where you are – you want to be empowered knowing that where you are is where you CHOOSE to be – not where you HAVE to be. So, re-framing what it means and what it’s like to be single opens up everyone’s world by bringing you to the point of choice about your relationship status, rather than the point of “panic settling” or “victim mentality” about your relationship status. Trust us, you’re going to like this one.

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In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…

• Her book,The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity
• That being single is not terrible!
• How being single is a whole lot better than “panic settling”
  
• That being single can be nourishing and refreshing – it has everything to do with reframing the way you see it
  
• Enjoying where you are at the time
  
• That there are pros and cons to being in a relationship and there are also pros and cons to being single
  
• The “if-then” happiness loop that’s a moving target
  
• How you get used to what you have and then you shoot for the next thing
  
• Choosing your perspective on your life and counting up your gratitudes
  
• That being single is WAY BETTER than being in a bad relationship
  
• How people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone
  
• What being a “love addict” means
  
• How you need bonding with 5 people in your life – not just 1 – to be happy
  
• How essential it is to like yourself in order to be happy in a healthy relationship
  
• The three different attachment styles that are created in early childhood (but can be changed in adulthood): anxious attached, secure attached, avoidant attached
  
• How feminism – in other words, equality – has made it socially acceptable for women to be single now
  
• A thought doesn’t have to lead to an action
  
• Don’t let yourself get too “HALT” (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired)

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Mary O’Malley

Parker Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to many people in many different walks of life. He’s the founder and senior partner in The Center for Courage and Renewal. He’s the author of many books, including his newest one which we talk about on this episode: On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. Parker is one of our favorite guests of the show and after you listen to this episode, you’ll know why he’s back for a second conversation.

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In This Interview, Parker Palmer and I Discuss…

• His book, On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old
• His reflections looking back on his life
• The resilient fabric of his life
• How perfection is an illusion
• The role mistakes can play in one’s life
• The gift of age: Looking back on one’s life and saying “It all belongs”
• Another gift of age: Deep appreciation and gratitude for the present moment
• Feeling like you’re one of the lucky ones that you’re “old”
• Asking “What’s there for me to learn?” when facing problematic moments in life (like feeling down, or feeling self-pity)
• Moments of life that are burdened with ego
• The correlation between ego concerns and anxiety
• The importance and role of perspective
• The what and why of the things we’re doing
• The question (and trap!): Does my life have meaning?
• My legacy vs Our legacy
• How we’re all embedded in community
• “I planted some seeds and found some people I wanted to garden with…”
• How life and work are profoundly communal
• Reflecting on the question, “Have I been sufficiently open to and aware of the significant contributions others have made in my life – and in such a way to do a deep bow to them in the work that I do?”
• Turning attention outward vs inward
• Being one among many vs trying to be something or someone special
• The healing impact of getting out into the natural world
• His poem “Harrowing”
• To know when to say, “enough” because the rest of the world and the rest of my life is waiting

Parker Palmer Links

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Jonathan Rauch

Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.

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In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…

• His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50
• Connection to others
• Generosity
• The factors that most contribute to our happiness
• The U shape curve of happiness in life
• The emotional peak of life
• How our expectations change as life goes on
• That our values continue to change
• The fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetime
• How the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durable
• The hedonic treadmill
• What to do to be happier at the bottom of the curve
• The suffering that comes from social comparison
• Staying in the present moment
• Internal criticism
• Guilt vs Shame in mid-life
• The benefits of being other-directed, other-oriented
• How the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friend

Jonathan Rauch Links

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Neil Pasricha

After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.

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In This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss…

• His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day
• Understanding the limits on will-power
• Setting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisions
• Creating more time in your day for the things you care about
• The two powerful forces that compete every day for our time
• “The Busy Bandwagon”
• The Infinity Pools
• Questioning the “defaults” in our schedule
• Creating a highlight for every day
• Living a “someday” life
• Finding more meaningful moments
• Urgency, Satisfaction, Joy
• Batch the little stuff
• Laser mode
• Taking back control of your time and energy
• Creating barriers to distraction
• Managing your energy
• Building your energy
• Focusing on the process not the outcome

John Zeratsky Links

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