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Nir Eyal is an author whose writing on technology, psychology, and business has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, The Atlantic, Psychology Today, and many other renowned publications. Previously, he taught as a Lecturer in Marketing at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Design School. In this episode, Nir and Eric discuss his new book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. 

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In This Interview, Nir Eyal and I discuss Becoming Indistractable and…

• His book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life
• How what we pay attention to determines our quality of life
• The importance of being in control of how you spend your time and attention in life
• When it comes to being distracted, there are the blamers, the shamers, and the claimers
• That the root cause of distraction is uncomfortable sensations
• Time management is pain management
• How you can’t stop emotions but you can respond to them
• The 4 key steps of becoming indistractable
• Traction and Dis-traction
• How anything can become a distraction
• That you can’t call something a distraction unless you know what you are distracted from
• The tyranny of the to-do list
• Deciding with intent when you’re going to do something
• Timeboxing
• Mastering our internal triggers: Learning to work with our uncomfortable emotions
• The 3 reasons we get distracted
• The antidote to impulsive behavior
• Using an identity to help us become indistractable

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Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist interested in the development of intelligence, creativity, and personality. He applies a variety of perspectives to come to a richer understanding and appreciation of all kinds of minds and ways of achieving greatness. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization. They discuss many ways in which we can go beyond coping and, instead, set our sights a bit higher to thrive in our day to day life, regardless of the circumstances. Scott Barry Kaufman shows us how the ordinary life is always, at its heart, the extraordinary life.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Scott Barry Kaufman and I discuss Living a Transcendent Life and…

• His book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization
• That the way you frame a question can influence how you feel
• How to take the leap towards growth so that your focus is no longer on simply coping
• The idea of spending our days in transcendent ways 
• What it means to cope
• The detrimental path of Experiential Avoidance 
• The importance of integrating everything that’s happening right now within yourself
• How to view your personal growth opportunities while others are suffering
• The difference between those who are creative amidst uncertainty and those who struggle to be creative in the same conditions
• Being open to embracing new experiences by letting go of the need for control
• Going right to the heart of the fears that you have so that you can make peace with them
• That we don’t grow all at once and in a linear way
• Identifying what needs aren’t being met so we can meet them and not overcompensate in detrimental ways
• How our needs are interconnected with one another 
• How to see the extraordinary in the ordinary
• “Healthy Selfishness”
• Awe as a state of consciousness
• The Unitary Continuum

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Sue Monk Kidd was raised in the small town of Sylvester, Georgia, a place that deeply influenced the writing of her first novel, The Secret Life of Bees. Her 1990 book, When the Heart Waits, has become a touchstone on contemplative spirituality. Sue serves on the Writers Council for Poets & Writers, Inc and is well known for her work in feminist theology. Her new book is a novel called, The Book of Longings.  

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

For a free video in which Eric teaches you 3 perspectives you can take to help you navigate these challenging times, go to www.spiritualhabits.net

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!

In This Interview, Sue Monk Kidd and I discuss Longings of our Heart and…

• Her book, The Book of Longings
• That what you pay attention to will either devour you or save you because we become what we pay attention to
• The particular genius that dwells in every person
• How she first decided that she wanted to write fiction when she was in her 40s
• Asking the prayer that’s at the bottom of your heart
• How being visible and being audible in the world is a choice to express the largeness that’s inside each of us
• That we can nurture the largeness in another person, even if the largeness is inconvenient for us
• God as an essence that lives everywhere, the being-ness in our midst
• The many ways we conceptualize and thereby connect with God
• Why suffering results in increased kindness in some while it hardens others
• The role of vulnerability in our personal growth
• When her therapist told her that the pain won’t kill you but the running from it might.
• What it means to “let life be” when both beautiful and terrible things happen
• Radical acceptance
• How the path to healing is right through the wound
• Facing our pain so our soul can metabolize it and we can move through it and move on
• What it means to be a mother beyond having actual children
• The middle places in life where the waiting and the work happens
• Her writing process
• The silence beneath her words
• Her life as a prayer
• How letting go is not a one-time thing
• That life is like a spiral

Sue Monk Kidd Links:

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Many of us are staying at home right now because of the COVID-19 pandemic and if you live with people, chances are you have had moments of feeling irritated, frustrated, or annoyed as a result of being cooped up in close quarters together. This special episode has all-new interviews with 5 previous guests of the show, each offering you tips to help you navigate the difficult feelings and situations that come with spending so much time at home with loved ones. The guests of this special episode are Susan Piver, Lodro Rinzler, Rosalind Wiseman, Ralph De La Rosa, and Rick Hanson.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

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In This Episode, We discuss Tips for Living in Close Quarters and…

• That we are all subject to unbidden moods in these circumstances
• How to grow closer through experiencing the ups and downs together
• Resisting the urge to solve the “problem” of difficult feelings
• To be with each other we need to be comfortable being with ourselves
• Strategies to help you avoid snapping at your loved ones 
• Turning towards your feelings rather than your thoughts 
• How we’re face to face with our own minds right now
• Feeling what we feel without judgment and without a storyline
• What to do when you feel highly triggered 
• The simple question we can ask ourselves before acting on a feeling
• What to do to prepare before having a difficult conversation with someone you live with
• How humor can help
• Ways to cultivate a warmer heart
• That listening is being prepared to be changed by what you hear
• A helpful structure for family or household meetings
• How we can prepare for difficult emotional experiences
• Taking ownership of our own emotions
• How to relate to our irritation
• Remembering the people you live with are suffering, too
• The phrase, “Like me, you, too, ____”
• How to reduce the way we take things personally
• The neuroscience of why tuning into internal bodily sensations works

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