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The Lasting Joy of Being Sober with Catherine Gray

January 14, 2022 1 Comment

Catherine Gray is a Sunday Times Bestselling author of five books, including debut smash hit The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. She’s sold well over a quarter of a million books and her books have now been translated into nine languages. She’s been sober since 2013. Catherine has also written about being single later in life and learning to appreciate the ordinary.   

Eric and Catherine discuss her latest book, Sunshine Warm:  Unexpected Sober Joy That Lasts

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Catherine Gray and I Discuss The Lasting Joy of Being Sober and…

  • Her book, Sunshine Warm:  Unexpected Sober Joy That Lasts
  • The power of getting more specific with your gratitude lists
  • Being several years removed from addiction and in the advanced stages of recovery
  • Understanding that addiction doesn’t have to define you, but that it’s always there
  • No longer defining herself as an alcoholic after several years of sobriety
  • Addiction can be the difference between what you intend to do and what you actually do
  • How addiction is a spectrum and not black or white
  • The issues with labeling yourself as an addict
  • What matters most is asking yourself if your life would be better without the substance or behavior
  • The challenge with addictions that are considered  socially acceptable 
  • How most experts agree there isn’t such a thing as an addictive personality
  • Some people may have addictive tendencies based on various traits
  • Understanding that our perception of ourselves is what shapes our reality

Catherine Gray Links:

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Catherine Gray, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Catherine Gray (2018 Interview)

Catherine Gray on Unexpected Joy (2019 Interview)

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Catherine Gray is a listener favorite guest on the show. She’s been on once before to talk about her book, The Unexpected Joy of being Sober and we received so many messages about how people loved the conversation Eric had with her. In this episode, she’s here to discuss her new book, The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity. Are you single? Then obviously this episode is for you. Are you in a relationship? Then – unexpectedly – this episode is also for you! Too often, people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone. You don’t want to feel trapped where you are – you want to be empowered knowing that where you are is where you CHOOSE to be – not where you HAVE to be. So, re-framing what it means and what it’s like to be single opens up everyone’s world by bringing you to the point of choice about your relationship status, rather than the point of “panic settling” or “victim mentality” about your relationship status. Trust us, you’re going to like this one.

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In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…

  • Her book,The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity
  • That being single is not terrible!
  • How being single is a whole lot better than “panic settling”
  • That being single can be nourishing and refreshing – it has everything to do with reframing the way you see it
  • Enjoying where you are at the time
  • That there are pros and cons to being in a relationship and there are also pros and cons to being single
  • The “if-then” happiness loop that’s a moving target
  • How you get used to what you have and then you shoot for the next thing
  • Choosing your perspective on your life and counting up your gratitudes
  • That being single is WAY BETTER than being in a bad relationship
  • How people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone
  • What being a “love addict” means
  • How you need bonding with 5 people in your life – not just 1 – to be happy
  • How essential it is to like yourself in order to be happy in a healthy relationship
  • The three different attachment styles that are created in early childhood (but can be changed in adulthood): anxious attached, secure attached, avoidant attached
  • How feminism – in other words, equality – has made it socially acceptable for women to be single now
  • A thought doesn’t have to lead to an action
  • Don’t let yourself get too “HALT” (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired)

Catherine Gray Links

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If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Catherine Gray (First interview 2018)

Mary O’Malley

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Catherine Gray is an award-winning writer and editor. Her most recent book is called, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. What a brilliant title and what a brilliant book. In it – and in this interview – Catherine offers so many good ideas, phrases, and pearls of wisdom to take away and keep close by. She shares a bit about her journey to and through sobriety with Eric and the critical “ah ha” moments along the way that really helped her build the life she’s living today. If you don’t have a revelatory moment when listening to her in this interview, we’ll be surprised.
 
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In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…

  • The Wolf Parable
  • Her book, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober
  • The challenge of training our brains to look for the good stuff in life
  • The question: Would my life be better sober? instead of Am I an alcoholic?
  • Rock bottom being a different place for different people at different times
  • The challenge of moderation
  • The beautiful clarity of zero
  • The limbic system in distress with indecision
  • Controlling vs Enjoying drinking
  • Alcohol being like a cheat code in a video game when it comes to inhibition
  • That no one regrets being sober
  • The awful feelings at the beginning of getting sober are what you feel like because of the drinking, not the getting sober
  • Learning the skills to enjoy life sober
  • Addictive voice recognition
  • Negative Thought Patterns:
    • B&B
    • Children in a car
    • Bird watching
  • That there are many different ways to get sober
  • How expectations are resentments under construction
  • Day counting in being sober
  • I don’t vs I can’t

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed 

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee Indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

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