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Meditation & Mindfulness

A collection of The One You Feed Episodes that deal with meditation and mindfulness

143: Tara Brach

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This week we talk to Tara Brach

Tara Brach is an American psychologist and proponent of Buddhist meditation. She is a guiding teacher and founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, D.C  Brach also teaches Buddhist meditation at centers for meditation and yoga in the United States and Europe including Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, California, the Kripalu Center,and the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies.

Brach is an engaged Buddhist specializing in the application of Buddhist teachings to emotional healing. Her 2003 book, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha, focuses on the use of practices such as mindfulness for healing trauma. Her 2013 book, True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart, offers practices for tapping into inner peace and wisdom in the midst of difficulty.

 In This Interview, Tara Brach and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Being kind to the parts of ourselves that are more primitive
  • The difference between feelings and thoughts
  • Dropping the storyline
  • The question of “What am I unwilling to feel?”
  • How we have to go through the difficult emotions to get to peace
  • The importance of remembering the good
  • Not being addicted to suffering
  • The habit of looking for what’s wrong
  • What’s the moment like if there is no problem
  • How we tend to always anticipating a problem 
  • How we are almost always lost in thought
  • Practicing coming into our senses
  • Self-compassion as the most important quality on the spiritual path
  • Only being taught one type of meditation
  • Trying different types of meditation until we find the one that works best for us
  • The quality that helps people progress on the path of meditation: intention
  • How to deal with numbness
  • Tara’s tips on dealing with depression
  • How depression hates a moving target
  • That depression is not our fault
  • Finding refuge in difficult times
  • Instead of asking “What’s the Meaning” asking “What matters to me here”

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136: Brad Warner

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This week we talk to Brad Warner about not being a jerk

Brad Warner is an ordained Zen teacher and author of the books There Is No God And He Is Always With You , Sit Down and Shut Up and Hardcore Zen. He’s also a writer for the Suicide Girls website, bass player for the hardcore punk rock group 0DFx (aka Zero Defex), star of the movies “Shoplifting From American Apparel” and “Zombie Bounty Hunter M.D.,” director of the film “Cleveland’s Screaming!” and former vice president of the US branch of the company founded by the man who created Godzilla.

His latest book is called: Don’t Be a Jerk: Other Practical Advice from Dogen, Japan’s Greatest Zen Master – A Radical but Reverent Paraphrasing of Dogen’s Treasury of the True Dharma Eye

In This Interview, Brad Warner and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His book, Don’t Be a Jerk and Other Practical Advice from Dogen, Japan’s Greatest Zen Master
  • That we become the people we need to become
  • How a person can be a buddha one minute and a jackass the next
  • That once you realize what your “negative” urges are, they become less attractive for you to respond to
  • The answer to the question, “How do you strive to be a better person AND accept life exactly as it is?”
  • That the most intelligent course of action is the one that benefits everyone involved
  • How one of his teachers said that you need to hold an equal amount of faith and doubt
  • The idea that thoughts are just the secretions of your brain the same way your stomach acid are the secretion of your stomach
  • According to the Zen practice, there is nothing other than what exists right now
  • The powerful truth that Brad Warner states: “you can always improve your situation but you do so by facing it, not by running away”
  • The mistake that’s made when designating certain things as “self”
  • The role of nature as it relates to the dharma according to Dogen

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134: James R Doty

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This week we talk to James R Doty about the power of compassion

James R Doty, MD, is a Clinical Professor in the Department of Neurosurgery at Stanford University and the Director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education at Stanford University School of Medicine. He completed his undergraduate education at the University of CA, Irvine and medical school at Tulane University. He trained in neurosurgery at Walter Reed Army Medical Center and completed fellowships in pediatric neurosurgery at Children’s Hospital in Philadelphia.

As Director of CCARE, Dr. Doty has collaborated on a number of research projects focused on compassion and altruism including the use of neuro-economic models to assess altruism, use of the CCARE developed compassion cultivation training in individuals and its effect, assessment of compassionate and altruistic judgment utilizing implanted brain electrodes and the use of optogenetic techniques to assess nurturing pathways in rodents.

Dr. Doty is also an inventor, entrepreneur and philanthropist having given support to a number of charitable organizations including Children as the Peacemakers, Global Healing, the Pachamama Alliance and Family & Children Services of Silicon Valley. Additionally, he has endowed chairs at major universities including Stanford University and his alma mater, Tulane University. He is on the Board of Directors of a number of non-profit foundations including the Dalai Lama Foundation, of which he is chairman and the Charter for Compassion International of which he is vice-chair. He is also on the International Advisory Board of the Council for the Parliament of the World’s Religions.

He is the author of Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart 

In This Interview, James R Doty and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His book,  Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart 
  • The impact of compassionate acts on our brain, health and well-being
  • How early in his childhood he felt like a leaf being blown around by an ill wind
  • The four key lessons that, when learned, changed the trajectory of his life
  • The difference between you and your inner voice
  • That when you create the internal circumstances for reaching your goal, that allows for the possibility of the outward circumstances to align themselves for your own success
  • A scientific perspective on the connection between the brain and the heart and the rest of the body
  • The types of practices that can improve your vegal tone and why that matters 
  • The important role that attachment early in life plays in the quality of health later in your life
  • The important role that connection with others plays in your health throughout your life
  • That being of service to others is what gives life meaning

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129: John Prendergast

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This week we talk to John Prendergast about tuning into our body

John J. Prendergast, PhD, is a psychotherapist, retired professor of psychology, spiritual teacher, and founder and editor-in-chief of Undivided: The Online Journal of Nonduality and Psychology.

He received his undergraduate degree from UC Santa Cruz and my M.A. and Ph.D. from the California Institute of Integral Studies.  He is licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist.

In This Interview, John Prendergast and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • How important our body is
  • What “knowing” is
  • Learning to trust our deeper knowledge
  • The difference between inner knowing and hunches based on fear
  • Finding true knowing from ego desires
  • The static in our system
  • Observing thoughts as just thoughts
  • Learning to be more aware to the sensations and feelings in the body
  • Our brain- The Thought Factory
  • Scanning the body
  • Identifying with the world from our thinking, not our body

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125: Mary O’Malley

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This week we talk to Mary O’Malley about awakening to the world around us

Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive.  Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness and struggle with ease, well-being and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening.

Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning.  She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy.  Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.”

Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Way: A Practical Guide to Awakening.

In This Interview, Mary O’Malley and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The intertwining of good and bad, the yin and yang
  • Dealing with eating problems
  • How what we fight, we empower
  • Creating a relationship with the dark side
  • The impact of the early years of our lives
  • The conditioned self
  • How we are addicted to struggle
  • Being present to life instead of thinking our way through life
  • The “low-grade suffering” that permeates our lives
  • The storyteller in our minds
  • The Four Let’s- Let Life, Let it Be, Let it Go,
  • Learning to not listen so closely to the storyteller in our mind
  • The difference between being here for life and being in a conversation about life
  • The power of curiosity
  • The core spells that we tell ourselves
  • Look to Unhook
  • The power of human attention to heal
  • Sticking with these practices even when it seems to be going slow
  • Watching for tightness in yourself as a trigger to let go
  • Learning to be here for whatever life presents
  • The gift of our compulsions
  • Having a set of beliefs that empower us versus take our power away
  • Life is set up to bring up what is bound up so we can open up to be freed up so can show up for life
  • Not being the victim of life
  • Having the ability to come back to the heart

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124: Dan Harris and Oren J Sofer

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This week we talk to Dan Harris and Oren J Sofer about mindful communication

Our guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren J Sofer.

 

Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10% Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekend edition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline.

 

He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10% Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer.

 

Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialist in the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation.

 

This conversation was recorded in Dan’s office in the ABC Studios in New York.

 

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In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Why mindfulness is useful in communication
  • The 10% Happier app
  • Learning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve the relationship
  • How our cultural conditioning teaches us the Win/Lose paradigm
  • How we have a strong negative conditioning against confrontation that becomes hard-wired
  • How mindfulness allows us to slow down and monitor our emotional reactions in conversation
  • The role of curiosity in communication
  • How to become more curious
  • Learning to ask “What matters here” when listening to others
  • Learning to say that we don’t feel like talking instead of just pretending
  • The minor discomfort of being real
  • How to say things in a way that the other person can hear and understand
  • Learning to hold our tongue in certain situations
  • How being silent can lead to its own challenges
  • The importance of timing in choosing when to address issues
  • Context sensitive communication
  • The two criteria of good communication: does the other person understand and does it lead to connection

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