Parker Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to many people in many different walks of life. He’s the founder and senior partner in The Center for Courage and Renewal. He’s the author of many books, including his newest one which we talk about on this episode: On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. Parker is one of our favorite guests of the show and after you listen to this episode, you’ll know why he’s back for a second conversation.

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In This Interview, Parker Palmer and I Discuss…

• His book, On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old
• His reflections looking back on his life
• The resilient fabric of his life
• How perfection is an illusion
• The role mistakes can play in one’s life
• The gift of age: Looking back on one’s life and saying “It all belongs”
• Another gift of age: Deep appreciation and gratitude for the present moment
• Feeling like you’re one of the lucky ones that you’re “old”
• Asking “What’s there for me to learn?” when facing problematic moments in life (like feeling down, or feeling self-pity)
• Moments of life that are burdened with ego
• The correlation between ego concerns and anxiety
• The importance and role of perspective
• The what and why of the things we’re doing
• The question (and trap!): Does my life have meaning?
• My legacy vs Our legacy
• How we’re all embedded in community
• “I planted some seeds and found some people I wanted to garden with…”
• How life and work are profoundly communal
• Reflecting on the question, “Have I been sufficiently open to and aware of the significant contributions others have made in my life – and in such a way to do a deep bow to them in the work that I do?”
• Turning attention outward vs inward
• Being one among many vs trying to be something or someone special
• The healing impact of getting out into the natural world
• His poem “Harrowing”
• To know when to say, “enough” because the rest of the world and the rest of my life is waiting

Parker Palmer Links

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Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.

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In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…

• His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50
• Connection to others
• Generosity
• The factors that most contribute to our happiness
• The U shape curve of happiness in life
• The emotional peak of life
• How our expectations change as life goes on
• That our values continue to change
• The fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetime
• How the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durable
• The hedonic treadmill
• What to do to be happier at the bottom of the curve
• The suffering that comes from social comparison
• Staying in the present moment
• Internal criticism
• Guilt vs Shame in mid-life
• The benefits of being other-directed, other-oriented
• How the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friend

Jonathan Rauch Links

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After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.

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In This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss…

• His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day
• Understanding the limits on will-power
• Setting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisions
• Creating more time in your day for the things you care about
• The two powerful forces that compete every day for our time
• “The Busy Bandwagon”
• The Infinity Pools
• Questioning the “defaults” in our schedule
• Creating a highlight for every day
• Living a “someday” life
• Finding more meaningful moments
• Urgency, Satisfaction, Joy
• Batch the little stuff
• Laser mode
• Taking back control of your time and energy
• Creating barriers to distraction
• Managing your energy
• Building your energy
• Focusing on the process not the outcome

John Zeratsky Links

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Marilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them. 

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In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss…

• Her book, How I Discovered Poetry
• Her poem, Mississippi
• Her book, A Wreath for Emmett Till
• The poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnets
• Her poem, Rosemary for Remembrance
• Her poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a Wreath
• Her poem, Like His Gouged Eye
• How poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silence
• The value of silence in a life well lived
• Silence, contemplation, and self-knowledge
• Our quiet center
• Her book, Carver
• Her poem, Professor Carver’s Bible Class
• Her book, Snook Alone

Marilyn Nelson Links

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Paul Hannam has started, owned and managed a number of successful businesses and he taught business and environmental management at Oxford University. His new book is The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a Time. Before you jump to thinking you know what he’s going to say about this – wait and listen to this episode. You’ll be surprised and intrigued by his insight and recommendations based on this movie.

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In This Interview, Paul Hannam and I Discuss…

• His book, The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a Time
• The controlled experiment of Groundhog Day (the film)
• The life skill of experimentation
• Investigating our behavior
• Working on changing one variable at a time
• Keeping a journal
• Asking “what is my role in creating my mood?”
• Looking inward for the answer
• Making change 1 day at a time
• The action of our inner life
• Narrowing the spectrum of life through routine
• The inner monotony
• How you have everything you need to be happy now
• Slowing down with mindfulness
• Grounding yourself in your senses
• Connecting with nature
• The conditioned self
• The authentic self
• Conditioning, Circumstances and Our Mind
• How our brain doesn’t like change
• The 5 characteristics of our conditioned self
• Try looking at things in a new way
• Trying to control our inner state
• Letting go of outcomes

Paul Hannam Links

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Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change

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In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss…

• His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change
• How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life
• That procrastination can be an existential matter
• What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.
• When we procrastinate we delay getting on with our lives
• Being an active member or your own life
• The two ways procrastination compromises our health
• Stress
• Fewer wellness behaviors
• Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later”
• Procrastination being a problem of self-regulated behavior
• I won’t give in to feel good
• Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions
• When….then…
• Giving the monkey something to do
• What’s the next action?
• Keeping it small
• Hacks to work around our irrational thinking
• Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation
• The meaning behind our goals
• Meaning and Manageability
• Asking what will this cost me if I put it off?
• Prefer tomorrow over today
• Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”
• Affect forecasting
• Thinking of your future self as a stranger
• Developing empathy for future self
• Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem

Tim Pychyl Links

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Tim’s Psychology Today Page

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