Dr. Christian Conte is one of the country’s most accomplished mental health specialists in the field of anger and emotional management. He specializes in working in the prison system with people convicted of violent crimes. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World. If this conversation about radical anger management rubs you the wrong way in the beginning, we invite you to get curious about your reaction and stay with the conversation – you may feel and think differently by the end of the episode.
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In This Interview, Christian Conte and I discuss Radical Anger Management and…
- His book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World
- Working with our own anger
- The relationship between our ego and our anger
- Anger management
- That our expectations influence our experience of the world
- Hindsight bias
- How anger is a wonderful motivator
- That if we loosen our grip on being right, we can humble ourselves to receive other perspectives
- The metaphor of only being able to see one side of the box
- Switching to a position of curiosity
- That certainty is an emotion, not a cognition
- Leading humility and curiosity lessens the intensity of a situation
- By saying, “here’s what I’m seeing, please teach me about what you’re seeing”, you can change the energy of the conversation
- How we can drain our own limbic system in the midst of feeling angry
- What it means that our mind wants to match our body
- Why he recommends that we go to bed angry (instead of following the old adage that says otherwise)
- That when we understand something intellectually, we think we’ve mastered putting it into practice in our lives
- That extreme language produces extreme emotions
- How we’re not disturbed by things – we’re disturbed by our view of things
- That certainty is at the heart of a lot of anger
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