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Omid Safi on Radical Love

November 20, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Omid Safi is one of the leading American public intellectuals. He’s a professor of religious studies at Duke University and for the last seven years, he’s led the Study of Islam section at the American Academy of Religion. His new book is called, Radical Love: Teachings from the Islamic Mystical Tradition. There are so many teachings in this interview about what it means and how to know and experience God and healing. Through poetry we receive wisdom and it is transformational. That’a what you’ll get from this episode – as well as a dose of beauty that will touch your soul.

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In This Interview, Omid Safi and I Discuss…

• His book, Radical Love: Teachings from the Islamic Mystical Tradition

• Love and Justice being so tied together in the Islamic Tradition

• How do we live a life that makes beauty real?

• How do we make “love” something we do towards one another?

• Healing of the world that is also involved in a spiritual transformation

• How he translated the poetry in his book by going back to the words of Mohammad

• Rumi

• Hafez

• The path of love is made up of seekers who are in it for God’s own heart

• How we have to love God’s own people (those around us)

• The connection between knowing God and knowing ourselves

• The false idea of something for nothing in new age spirituality

• God when you’re deep in the valley as well as when you’re on the mountain top

• The question, “Tell me what I need to do to be transformed?”

• How Ritual, Transformation, Sacrifice, and Community are needed in a religion/spirituality

• How only God has the right to say “I”

• The cycles of our spiritual life

• Seeing God wherever we don’t see ourselves

• A valuable spiritual path teaches you how to navigate your own suffering

• People whose heart breaks vs people whose heart breaks open

• Sitting with people who are suffering

• That you own nothing and nothing owns you

• Sticking with your friends through difficult times

Omid Safi Links

Islamic Studies at Duke

Omid’s Podcast

Omid’s OnBeing Columns

Ralph De La Rosa on the Mind as Your Teacher

November 13, 2018 By Eric Zimmer 2 Comments

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Ralph De La Rosa is a psychotherapist in private practice in NYC. He specializes in helping people resolve their childhood traumas, anxiety, depression and intimacy issues. You might have seen his work in places like CNN, GQ, Self, or Women’s Health. His new book is called The Monkey is the Messenger and it is an instructional and revolutionary look at what it means to attend and befriend ones self. In this interview, he shares some of the key practices that are most helpful along this journey.

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In This Interview, Ralph De La Rosa and I Discuss…

His book, The Monkey is the Messenger
The truest sentence he knows – there’s always more to the story
The monkey – what it is and why it’s on our side
The monkey mind as our teacher
The monkey mind drives us towards meditation and away from meditation
Our triggers are on the surface and they are connected to something deeper within us that’s unhealed. We can absolutely get to that root through mindfulness and meditation.
The value of showing up for a daily practice
Drawing the attention out of our head and into our body gets our brain activated in the right hemisphere
The right hemisphere – nonlinguistic, free of chatter
Emotions are held in the body
The unconscious mind is accessed in the body because emotions show up in our body
Radical Nonpathology
Love, gratification and safety are at the root
How can I be happy? How can I avoid suffering?
What looks pathological are our misguided attempts to meet these root needs and drivers
Holding our emotions like children
Using circumstances to heal rather than being retraumatized through emotional warmth
That difficult emotions are messengers to us
Abandoning or ignoring any part of ourselves is equivalent to enacting aggression towards ourselves.
How Vinny Ferraro says you can’t hate your way into enlightenment
The inner critic
Emotions always follow a logic

Ralph De La Rosa Links

Ruth King on Healing Racism

November 6, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Ruth King is an emotional wisdom author, coach, and consultant. She’s a guiding teacher at Insight Meditation Community of Washington and she’s on the teacher’s council at Spirit Rock Meditation Center. In addition, she’s the founder of Mindful Members Insight Meditation Community in Charlotte, NC. She has a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology and is the author of several publications including her new book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out. In this stirring, thoughtful and wise conversation, she touches on the heart of racism and teaches how we can move to heal this heart disease.

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In This Interview, Ruth King and I Discuss…

Her book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism From The Inside Out
The value of being curious about the good and bad wolves inside of us
Racism being a heart disease that is curable
Her open heart surgery at the age of 27
Rage being an exit route
Rage being energy moving through the body
Habitual patterns of racism being a layer on top of the real issue that we can’t tolerate – they are defense mechanisms
Racial affinity groups
6 hindrances
The structure of racism
Racism vs Prejudice
Racist vs Racism
Understanding our own experience with racism and talking about it
What it’s like to be “membered”
Individual vs group identity
Diversity within the body of color

Ruth King Links

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James Clear on the Compounding Power of Habits Part 2

October 30, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You’ll learn some really specific, easy and flat out “why didn’t I think of that” genius methods to apply to your life and habits.

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In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…

His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones
Habits are a response to the physical cues in our environment
Increasing the friction it takes to complete the task
The more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the better
Habit stacking/Anchoring
“After _____ I will _____”
The more specific the better
Social environment and habits
You want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior
Make it easy
The two-minute rule
A habit must be established before it can be improved
Optimize for the starting line rather than the finish line
Make it satisfying
Feel successful at the end
Bring the long-term consequences into the short term

James Clear Links

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James Clear on the Compounding Nature of Habits Part 1

October 23, 2018 By Eric Zimmer 4 Comments

Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, he talks about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. It’s a fascinating and educational discussion surrounding how to work with yourself and your habits to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change. Everyone can benefit from listening to the wisdom in this episode. Enjoy.

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In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…

His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones
How habits can compound for you or against you
That small changes don’t seem to matter much in the moment
The 4 Laws of Behavior Change
Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your efforts
How bamboo is like habits
You need to build a foundation to see results
How work isn’t wasted, it’s stored
Focusing on systems rather than goals
How the outcome is a natural consequence of habits
That goals restrict your happiness
The role of identity in behavior change
How you choose to act is a vote towards the kind of person you want to be
Putting your identity on the back burner while you accrue some evidence
Growth vs Fixed Mindset
How humans are learning machines
The 4 Stages of Habits
How you interpret the cues in your life determines how you respond to them
The toolbox for breaking and building habits

James Clear Links

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Re-Release: Dr. Gabor Mate on Addiction

October 16, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

This week we talk to Dr. Gabor Mate´about addiction

A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.

For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site.

As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.

Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focusses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.

Dr. Maté has received the Hubert Evans Prize for Literary Non-Fiction; an Honorary Degree (Law) from the University of Northern British Columbia; an Outstanding Alumnus Award from Simon Fraser University; and the 2012 Martin Luther King Humanitarian Award from Mothers Against Teen Violence. He is an adjunct professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University.

In This Interview, Dr. Gabor Mate´and I Discuss…

The One You Feed parable
The degree of choice we have in life
What is the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts?
What is addiction?
The characteristics of addiction
Recognizing what addicts get out of their addiction
The fundamental question is not “Why the Addiction” but “Why the Pain”
How all addiction comes out of some hurt or trauma
The different types of trauma
The role of neurotransmitters in addiction
How drugs and alcohol destroy the parts of the brain that allow us to make sound decisions
Whether or not genetics play a significant role in addiction
Whether our culture breeds addiction
How our children get most of their leadership from other children
How the breakup of family, community and clan is contributing to addiction
The critical role of the culture in our the development of our brains
Recognizing our inherent value
To what degree we have freedom over our choices
Without consciousness, there is no freedom
Paths to recovery
How compassion can help with recovery
Developing compassionate curiosity towards ourselves

Dr. Gabor Mate´ Links

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Re-Release: Tara Brach

October 9, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

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This week we talk to Tara Brach

Tara Brach is an American psychologist and proponent of Buddhist meditation. She is a guiding teacher and founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, D.C Brach also teaches Buddhist meditation at centers for meditation and yoga in the United States and Europe including Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, California, the Kripalu Center,and the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies.

Brach is an engaged Buddhist specializing in the application of Buddhist teachings to emotional healing. Her 2003 book, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha, focuses on the use of practices such as mindfulness for healing trauma. Her 2013 book, True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart, offers practices for tapping into inner peace and wisdom in the midst of difficulty.

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In This Interview, Tara Brach and I Discuss…

The One You Feed parable
Being kind to the parts of ourselves that are more primitive
The difference between feelings and thoughts
Dropping the storyline
The question of “What am I unwilling to feel?”
How we have to go through the difficult emotions to get to peace
The importance of remembering the good
Not being addicted to suffering
The habit of looking for what’s wrong
What’s the moment like if there is no problem
How we tend to always anticipate a problem
How we are almost always lost in thought
Practicing coming into our senses
Self-compassion as the most important quality on the spiritual path
Only being taught one type of meditation
Trying different types of meditation until we find the one that works best for us
The quality that helps people progress on the path of meditation: intention
How to deal with numbness
Tara’s tips on dealing with depression
How depression hates a moving target
That depression is not our fault
Finding refuge in difficult times
Instead of asking “What’s the Meaning” asking “What matters to me here”

Tara Brach Links

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Dorothy Hunt on The Heart of Awareness

October 2, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Dorothy Hunt serves as the spiritual director of the Moon Mountain Sangha, teaching the spiritual lineage of Adyshanti. She is also the founder of the San Francisco Center for Meditation and Psychotherapy where she has practiced since 1967. She has several published works, the most recent being her book, Ending the Search: From Spiritual Ambition to the Heart of Awareness. We think you’ll find her teachings profound, liberating and refreshing. In this episode, she and Eric discuss what it means and looks like to awaken to our true reality. She dropped some truth bombs on us and if you listen to the conversation, we think they’ll land on you as well.

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In This Interview, Dorothy Hunt and I Discuss…

Her book, Ending the Search: From Spiritual Ambition to the Heart of Awareness
How we carry the seeds of everything within us – which do we water with our attention?
That everything is an “inside job”
Her focus of awakening to our true reality
What spiritual ambition means
The role of self-inquiry in awakening to who/what we really are
A unified reality
Desire, effort, and grace
Intensity taking the place for ambition
Staying put in the not knowing
Staying put in the silence
Expansion and contraction in life
The error of thinking that our spirituality has to look a certain way
Alternatives to silence as your soul food
Asking ourselves the question: What is the deepest desire of my heart?
Asking the follow-up question: And what will that bring? to get to the deepest desire
Following your own inner teacher, your inner guidance
That happiness is temporarily stopping wanting to be somewhere else
That Adyashanti gave her nothing
The sword that cuts through illusion
When truth is moving it’s not asking permission
When we want the truth more than we want life to look a certain way we find it

Dorothy Hunt Links