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Ruth King on Healing Racism

November 6, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Ruth King is an emotional wisdom author, coach, and consultant. She’s a guiding teacher at Insight Meditation Community of Washington and she’s on the teacher’s council at Spirit Rock Meditation Center. In addition, she’s the founder of Mindful Members Insight Meditation Community in Charlotte, NC. She has a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology and is the author of several publications including her new book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out. In this stirring, thoughtful and wise conversation, she touches on the heart of racism and teaches how we can move to heal this heart disease.

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In This Interview, Ruth King and I Discuss…

Her book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism From The Inside Out
The value of being curious about the good and bad wolves inside of us
Racism being a heart disease that is curable
Her open heart surgery at the age of 27
Rage being an exit route
Rage being energy moving through the body
Habitual patterns of racism being a layer on top of the real issue that we can’t tolerate – they are defense mechanisms
Racial affinity groups
6 hindrances
The structure of racism
Racism vs Prejudice
Racist vs Racism
Understanding our own experience with racism and talking about it
What it’s like to be “membered”
Individual vs group identity
Diversity within the body of color

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Re-Release: Tara Brach

October 9, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

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This week we talk to Tara Brach

Tara Brach is an American psychologist and proponent of Buddhist meditation. She is a guiding teacher and founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, D.C Brach also teaches Buddhist meditation at centers for meditation and yoga in the United States and Europe including Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, California, the Kripalu Center,and the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies.

Brach is an engaged Buddhist specializing in the application of Buddhist teachings to emotional healing. Her 2003 book, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha, focuses on the use of practices such as mindfulness for healing trauma. Her 2013 book, True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart, offers practices for tapping into inner peace and wisdom in the midst of difficulty.

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In This Interview, Tara Brach and I Discuss…

The One You Feed parable
Being kind to the parts of ourselves that are more primitive
The difference between feelings and thoughts
Dropping the storyline
The question of “What am I unwilling to feel?”
How we have to go through the difficult emotions to get to peace
The importance of remembering the good
Not being addicted to suffering
The habit of looking for what’s wrong
What’s the moment like if there is no problem
How we tend to always anticipate a problem
How we are almost always lost in thought
Practicing coming into our senses
Self-compassion as the most important quality on the spiritual path
Only being taught one type of meditation
Trying different types of meditation until we find the one that works best for us
The quality that helps people progress on the path of meditation: intention
How to deal with numbness
Tara’s tips on dealing with depression
How depression hates a moving target
That depression is not our fault
Finding refuge in difficult times
Instead of asking “What’s the Meaning” asking “What matters to me here”

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Dorothy Hunt on The Heart of Awareness

October 2, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Dorothy Hunt serves as the spiritual director of the Moon Mountain Sangha, teaching the spiritual lineage of Adyshanti. She is also the founder of the San Francisco Center for Meditation and Psychotherapy where she has practiced since 1967. She has several published works, the most recent being her book, Ending the Search: From Spiritual Ambition to the Heart of Awareness. We think you’ll find her teachings profound, liberating and refreshing. In this episode, she and Eric discuss what it means and looks like to awaken to our true reality. She dropped some truth bombs on us and if you listen to the conversation, we think they’ll land on you as well.

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In This Interview, Dorothy Hunt and I Discuss…

Her book, Ending the Search: From Spiritual Ambition to the Heart of Awareness
How we carry the seeds of everything within us – which do we water with our attention?
That everything is an “inside job”
Her focus of awakening to our true reality
What spiritual ambition means
The role of self-inquiry in awakening to who/what we really are
A unified reality
Desire, effort, and grace
Intensity taking the place for ambition
Staying put in the not knowing
Staying put in the silence
Expansion and contraction in life
The error of thinking that our spirituality has to look a certain way
Alternatives to silence as your soul food
Asking ourselves the question: What is the deepest desire of my heart?
Asking the follow-up question: And what will that bring? to get to the deepest desire
Following your own inner teacher, your inner guidance
That happiness is temporarily stopping wanting to be somewhere else
That Adyashanti gave her nothing
The sword that cuts through illusion
When truth is moving it’s not asking permission
When we want the truth more than we want life to look a certain way we find it

Dorothy Hunt Links

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Miguel Chen on Punk Rock and Buddhism

September 25, 2018 By Eric Zimmer 2 Comments

Miguel Chen is a meditation practitioner, a yoga instructor, a yoga studio owner and the bass player for a punk rock band. He has also published a book called I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can Too. In this compelling episode, Eric and Miguel explore the connection between punk rock and Buddhism and they dive into the experiences in his life – both traumatic and positive – that have shaped his spiritual path of awakening.

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In This Interview, Miguel Chen and I Discuss…

His book, I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can Too
How he owns a yoga studio and plays in a punk rock band
The way he suppressed grief for dead family members
Asking himself why he wasn’t happy
The connection between punk rock and Buddhism
The other as self
Forgetting who we are
The importance of being mindful throughout life
Not being present with stuff we like
Not being present with stuff we don’t like
Eating mindfully
How if you’re used to disconnecting from things you don’t like, it starts creeping into the things you do like
How he stays in the present moment
Training the mind
His morning routine
Non-attachment
Being criticized for his spiritual practice
His spiritual practice while on tour
The danger of taking people in life for granted
How grateful he is that he woke up early in his life
Why some people get motivated to get sober and others don’t

Miguel Chen Links

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Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity and Meditation

August 28, 2018 By Eric Zimmer 3 Comments

Chris Bailey ran a year-long productivity project where he studied and ran experiments on the subject. To date, he’s written hundreds of articles on the topic which have been published in places like the Huffington Post, The New York Times and LifeHacker. In this episode, Chris and Eric discuss his new book, Hyperfocus: How to Be More Productive in a World of Distraction and they cover many topics and techniques to improve your focus and productivity. In addition to being a lovely person, he is also a true expert on this topic and you’ll walk away with useful information, no matter how productive you are to begin with.

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In This Interview, Chris Bailey and I Discuss…

His new book, Hyperfocus: How to Be More Productive in a World of Distraction
That what we notice is what we become
The state of our attention determines the state of our lives
The hourly awareness chime
How our mind gravitates to things that are any of these three things: pleasurable, threatening or novel
The measures he uses to determine the quality of attention: how long we can hold our focus, how long our mind wanders, how much of our time we can spend with intention
How we feel when we use our time well
The pain of using time wastefully
The Rule of 3 (Daily, Weekly, Monthly, Yearly)
Text Expander
The natural rhythm of our attention
Being kind to our mind
Our minds are built to wander
Approaching our wandering minds with curiosity
Keeping a distractions list
Scatter focus

Chris Bailey Links

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Culadasa Part 1-How Our Minds Work

July 11, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he’s ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works – knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind.

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In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss…

His book, The Mind Illuminated
How the mind and the brain works
The basic distinction between attention and awareness
How when we give labels to something we can know and understand it better
The moments of consciousness model
Non-perceiving moments of consciousness
The dullness of meditation
Sleepiness in meditation
The goal of vipassana is to increase the total power of our cognitive abilities
The mind system model (how the mind works)
The conscious and unconscious mind
Sensory sub-mind (taking in info through senses)
Discriminating sub-mind (cognitive thinking/feeling)
These sub-minds are competing for attention
The conscious mind is a place that the sub-minds project into
The power of setting intentions on the sub-minds
The role of the narrating sub-mind
We are a collection of the processes of the sub-minds
Making intellectual sense of the experience of not-self

Culadasa Links

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

Mark Epstein on the Intersection of Buddhism and Psychology

May 1, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Mark Epstein is a psychiatrist in private practice in NYC and the author of many books about the intersection of Buddhism and psychotherapy. He’s currently the clinical assistant professor in the postdoctoral program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis at New York University. His most recent book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself is what he talks about in this episode. His wisdom is so incredibly practical, applicable, and helpful. Ideas like whether or not naming your feelings would be a helpful strategy for you and how to work with clinging in its many forms – even the clinging to inner peace – abound in this discussion. Take a listen and enrich your inner life.

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In This Interview, Mark Epstein and I Discuss…

The Wolf Parable
His book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself
The duality that we all struggle with
Freud and the Buddha’s nearly identical conclusion
What it means to take personal responsibility for our selfish concerns
The clinging to that which gives us a sense of control over life
The clinging to that which nurtures our ego
The eightfold path of the Buddha
The conversation with his terminally ill father that inspired this book
Right View – being realistic about one’s self and the nature of things
How change and death is happening all of the time, moment to moment
Trying not to try as it relates to meditation
“Take the backward step” in meditation
FInding balance in “right effort”
Exploring the feelings that we are otherwise afraid of through psychotherapy
The link between being with uncomfortable feelings and empathy to others
How anything that’s happening in the body or mind can be the object of meditation
How useful it is to name a feeling
Making a feeling “intelligible” by naming it
How useful it can be to find where feelings show up in the body
When your mind is not aware of what’s making you act this way (in addiction, compulsive behaviors etc) it’s important to put the words on the feelings
Whether or not all emotions show up in the body
How clinging takes many forms – even the desire for inner peace
“Don’t chase her, let her find you.”
That our lives are made dull by our efforts to over control things

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs

225: Tim Freke

April 10, 2018 By Eric Zimmer Leave a Comment

Tim Freke is a truly pioneering philosopher. His many books, talks, and retreats have touched the lives of hundreds of thousands of people worldwide. Tim is the author of 35 books, the newest being Soul Story: Evolution and the purpose of life. As you listen to this interview, your ah-ha moments will grow in scope and scale throughout the conversation. He is a radical thinker and one of the great minds of our time. His big view of where we’ve been, where we are and where we’re going will hit you as perhaps surprising, remarkably realistic and fundamentally inspiring. Listen and see for yourself.

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In This Interview, Tim Freke and I Discuss…

The Wolf Parable
His book, Soul Story: Evolution and the Purpose of Life
The deeper level of evolution going on inside of ourselves
The evolution of the psyche
Perhaps it’s all one evolutionary journey: physical evolution, biological evolution and then an evolution of the psyche or soul
What if rather than the concept of God creating the universe, we’ve evolved such that we’ve created a god
Maybe God is where we’re going towards
In life – the deepest things happen at the end
An arriving of conscious oneness
The point of view that life in the world is getting better over time
Creativity is the heart of the universe
The great religions of the world were created at a time when people still thought the world is flat. We’ve moved on and so can our recognition of spirituality
The ark of time pointing towards a better world now
Rather than the passing of time, perhaps it’s the accumulation of the past meeting the possible.The past meeting the possible
The weight of the past that can limit us and pull us back
Paralogical thinking: both AND (not either or)
Transcend and Include
How he teaches others to have the experience of “deep awake”
Allowing vs. Pushing Away
Being pulled towards the better while living in the present
Being a spiritual being in an animal, human body
Cause and Effect, Meaning and Magic – all of the levels are interacting all of the time
The power of realistic thinking that’s inspirational
Deep Awake: being spiritually awake, you experience the oneness of life and that feels like love
Waking up doesn’t mean we ditch our individuality
The form of consciousness that comes through our senses which are rooted in the body
The form of consciousness that is in the psyche and imagination
The form of consciousness that questions itself and realizes that our essential nature has no form

Tim Freke Links