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Hilary Jacobs Hendel- How To Process Emotions

December 4, 2018 13 Comments

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Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a psychotherapist who switched from practicing traditional talk psychotherapy to accelerated experientia dynamic psychotherapy. She teaches us that our core emotions are automatic and grounded in universal physical experiences. Her new book is called, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self. In this episode, she goes into great instructional detail about how to identify and process your emotions in the moment. If you’ve ever felt a strong emotion (and who hasn’t), this episode will teach you how to move through it skillfully, rather than having your strong emotions wreak havoc in yourself and with others. 


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In This Interview, Hilary Jacobs Hendel and I Discuss…

  • Her new book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self
  • The 7 C’s of our authentic self
  • The science and biology of emotions
  • The change triangle
  • The Core Emotions: Fear, Anger, Sadness, Disgust, Joy, Excitement and Sexual Excitement
  • The 3 Inhibitory Emotions: Anxiety, Guilt, and Shame
  • How core emotions have energy and want to come up and out- to be expressed
  • Inhibitory emotions dampening our core emotions 
  • The difference between defenses and inhibitory emotions
  • How to work The Change Triangle
  • Trauma vs trauma
  • The power of naming your emotions
  • Our open-hearted state
  • When our emotions overwhelm us, it can be helpful to have someone else process them
  • Grounding and breathing
  • The role of core emotions is to ready us for action so they are first physical sensations, traveling from the brain down the vegus nerve
  • All core emotions have impulses associated with them
  • How harmful self-criticism and self-judgment can be
  • Relating to ourselves as a small child
  • Healthy shame vs toxic shame

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How to Be the Love You Seek with Dr. Nicole LePera

May 21, 2024 Leave a Comment

In this episode, Dr. Nicole LePera explores how to be the love you seek as she delves into the profound impact of emotional connection with oneself on fostering authentic relationships with others. She explores the interconnected nature of thoughts, emotions, and bodily experiences, providing valuable insights into the complexities of trusting oneself. Nicole emphasizes the importance of integrating knowledge and action for personal transformation and explains the role of the nervous system in decision-making and stress management.

In this episode, you will be able to:

  • Discover the power of building emotional connections with yourself to transform your life
  • Uncover the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships and gain insights into overcoming its influence
  • Explore effective practices for developing heart consciousness and nurturing deeper self-awareness
  • Learn how to differentiate intuition from trauma responses to make more mindful decisions
  • Master strategies for expanding stress tolerance to navigate life’s challenges with resilience

Dr. Nicole LePera is a holistic psychologist, trained at Cornell University, The New School for Social Research and The Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. She is the founder of the global community healing membership SelfHealers Circle and the author of #1 NY Times Bestseller “How to Do the Work” “How To Meet Your Self” and “How To Be The Love You Seek“

Connect with Dr. Nicole LePera: Website | Twitter 

If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Nicole LePera check out these other episodes:

How to Meet Yourself with Dr. Nicole LePera

How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David

Hilary Jacobs Hendel: How to Process Emotions

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How to Meet Yourself with Dr. Nicole LePera

December 9, 2022 Leave a Comment

Dr. Nicole LePera is an author and clinical psychologist in private practice.  She was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University, The New School for Social Research, and the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. She i the author of the #1 New York Times Bestselling Book, How To Do The Work.

In this episode, Eric and Nicole discuss her latest book How to Meet Yourself:  The Workbook for Self-Discovery

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Dr. Nicole LePera and I Discuss How to Meet Yourself and…

  • Her book, How to Meet Yourself:  The Workbook for Self-Discovery
  • Her personal and professional journey of getting and helping others get “unstuck”
  • Understanding the power of our unconscious mind and our habitual nature
  • How logic will not override the comfort and familiarity of our habits
  • The critical step of setting an intention for a small manageable change
  • How we can move from self betrayal to self trust by starting small and being consistent
  • The importance of taking responsibility for yourself rather than blaming outside circumstances
  • The shared human experience of shame of not being good enough that we often carry
  • Becoming conscious of our habits and patterns
  • How we need to tune into the body to find our intuition to find clarity
  • Discovering our values and knowing what’s important to us
  • The integral part of safety in beginning your journey
  • Breathwork as a foundational practice to get to safety
  • Grounding in the present moment is about paying attention and honoring our reactions
  • The different ways of grounding ourselves such as being in nature, moving our body, or listening to music
  • The “Daily Consciousness Check-In” as a foundational practice to activate conscious awareness
  • Self witnessing is learning how to live in the active state of awareness
  • Cycles of emotional addiction is the repetitive emotional experiences we often have

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Dr. Nicole’s Webiste: The Holistic Psychologist

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How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David

Hilary Jacobs Hendel: How to Process Emotions

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How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David

September 30, 2022 Leave a Comment

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Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life.

In this episode, Eric and Susan David discuss her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life

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Susan David and I Discuss How to Create Emotional Agility and …

  • Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life
  • How emotions are a guidance system and aren’t good or bad
  • Learning 
  • That emotions can help us adapt and thrive
  • The thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong”
  • Emotional agility is when we connect with our values and move forward in action
  • Emotional rigidity is when we believe the negative voice in our head and are reactive or on autopilot
  • How we get “hooked” when we accept our thoughts as facts
  • Strategies for getting “unhooked” 
  • Recognizing our patterns and being curious and compassionate about how we’re reacting
  • Understanding that tough emotions are part of life
  • Shifting thing from “I am ____ ” to “I notice that I’m feeling_____”
  • Choice points:  do I move towards or away from my values?
  • Our values are quality of action
  • Social contagion describes how we catch other peoples’ behaviors and emotions
  • The power of keeping our values front of mind
  • A meaningful life comes with discomfort
  • How our difficult emotions are signposts for our values
  • Premature cognitive commitment is when we decide before we think

Susan David Links

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Susan David, check out these other episodes:

How to Handle Emotions with Hilary Jacobs Hendel

How to Cope with Big Feelings with Liz Fosslien

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