Jonice Webb is the pioneer of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)™ awareness. She is a licensed psychologist and has enriched and kindled the discussion of this overlooked and under addressed topic by writing the first self-help book dedicated to CEN recovery titled “Running on Empty: Overcoming Your Childhood Emotional Neglect”
In this episode, Eric and Jonice discuss Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), how it affects us as adults, and how to heal ourselves.
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Jonice Webb and I Discuss Childhood Emotional Neglect and…
- Her book, “Running on Empty: Overcoming Your Childhood Emotional Neglect”
- Defining and understanding what Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)
- How it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility to find healing
- The subtle layers of emotional neglect from childhood that we may not remember
- CEN isn’t about what parents did, but rather what they didn’t do
- Symptoms and signs of CEN include discomfort and confusion with feelings and emotions
- Her work is trying to get people to reconnect with their feelings
- I.A.A.A. – Identify, Accept, Attribute, Act are the steps to process or deal with a feeling
- How writing can be a powerful coping technique when processing emotions
- Vertical and horizontal questioning
- The first step to healing is owning and understanding emotional neglect
- The Emotional Neglect Questionnaire
- Learning to change your relationship with your emotions
- Applying your newfound skills in your relationships
- The difference between minimizing and managing your feelings
- The importance of positive self-talk
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Steve Woodyard says
Hi there:
I have been married almost 28 years. My wife has realized she has CEN. But she seems to be stuck – too afraid to do anything about it. She gets angry and upset as well as anxious about at lot of things. To be honest, I was very patient for many years but I started to wear out – I had to eventually take a medical leave from work. I didn’t realize that the primary reason for my need for a medical leave was due to the stress of my marriage. In addition to CEN, my wife was sexually fondled when she was about 6 – when she was a little girl – by a neighbor. I do not want to leave but I am at my wits end. My own stamina and resilience is so low. I believe I’ve been the victim of emotional neglect by my wife. She is such a lovely person – I am still in love with her but I don’t think she knows how to feel safe with someone who loves her. There’s so much to say – but this is it for now. Steve W.
Brenda Gray says
About your feeling of irritability in a crowded, conversationally buzzing room. I think acknowledging it vocally would help. Like saying to the person you’re talking to “wow I can hardly hear myself think with all this noise.” Add another mild “you-flavoured” thing, and I bet it would relax you a bit.
I’ve only recently begun all this CEN, emotional stuff, but I’ve learned a wee bit already!
Regards…
Eric Zimmer says
Hi Brenda,
Good idea! Saying things out loud like that often helps.
Eric