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• The One You Feed parable
• His new book, Ambition Addiction: How to go slow, give thanks and discover the Joy Within
• That ambition can be healthy and it can also cross the line to being destructive
• The casualties ambition can leave behind
• The mirage of “any day now”
• The signs and symptoms of ambition addiction
• That addictive behavior is something we do often and it’s counterproductive
• The helpfulness of the question: Is my goal an all or nothing goal?
• That the road to hell is not paved with good intentions, it’s paved with unexamined intentions
• Recovering from ambition addiction
• The technique of breath, word and deed
• The key step of slowing down
• The key step of giving thanks
• The key step of donating time

Benjamin Shalva Links

• The One You Feed parable
• Her new book, Broadcasting Happiness: The Science of Igniting and Sustaining Positive Change
• The role that watching the news has in causing us to feel depressed
• How three minutes of negative news can lead to a 27% lower mood all day long
• How believing we are helpless can be one of the leading causes of depression
• The importance of believing that our behavior matters
• The three greatest predictors of success
• Stress isn’t necessarily bad, it’s the perception that matters
• Feeding the good wolf in others
• The myth that we can’t change other people
• Is this positive thinking?
• Focusing on the good
• The power lead
• Dealing with negative people
• Is the world becoming a better place?
• Can we choose to be happy?

Michelle Gielan

• The One You Feed parable
• His new book, Dropping the Struggle: Seven Ways to Love the Life You Have
• The power of poetry to reach deeper than the rational mind
• That struggle is not the same thing as effort
• That struggle is not the same thing as work
• That struggle is an extra push that really originates in fear, adding a note of desperation, that rarely ever works
• That life doesn’t happen according to the plans we have in our heads, rather it unfolds as it will. We call it “wrong” when it doesn’t align with our plan, but who are we to say if it’s right or wrong?
• The importance of loving, or fully embracing, the life you have right now because that’s what you have
• That there are some states of being that we can’t will ourselves into
• Dropping the struggle of time
• A different definition of “leisure” than you might have heard before
• Dropping the struggle to know
• That “knowing” isn’t necessarily helped by information or knowledge

Roger Housden Links

• The One You Feed parable
• His new book, Finding God in the Waves
• His analogy of our brains being like the government
• Where God is found in our brains
• That if you continually analyze your relationship with a person, eventually that relationship will be less emotionally based and more intellectually based
• That the arts as well as anything looked at or experienced as a whole rather than reductively will help feed your “romantic” wolf in a relationship
• His journey from the Southern Baptist Church to losing his faith to where he is today
• His faith today is a posture of gratitude, surrender, an awareness that life is just something that we have that we didn’t do anything to receive and it is a rare and precious gift and that he extends that gratitude to God (which is found in our unique human capacity to love)
• That reading the Bible shattered his faith
• The necessity to give people the freedom to figure out who they are and live into their own sense of identity
• The value of church when it comes to happiness
• That realizing that he had been fundamentally wrong about his worldview twice before helped him to realize the limits of his knowledge and to not take it so seriously the third time around
• The 4 parts of a meditative practice: Intention, Attention, Nonjudgement, and Relax
• The God gene
• How beautiful the world would be if we were able to allow each other to have unique worldviews

Mike McHargue Links

• The One You Feed parable
• His new book, The Science of Enlightenment
• The five fundamental good wolves
• The skill set of mindful awareness
• How meditation helps you concentrate
• How the ability to concentrate is at the base of the pyramid of anything you want to do
• That mindful awareness is the ability to focus on anything you want, whenever you want for as long as you want
• Untangle and be free
• How to break down our inner space
• How to track your sense of self
• Breaking the self down into these three things: Mental images, mental talk and body emotions
• That when you have a strong emotion you almost always will have a change in body sensation
• How to parcel body sensation into emotional and non-emotional
• The experiment you can do when you move into a situation that is emotionally intense but that is not currently intense
• How to suffer less in life and be 10x happier
• The difference between pain and suffering
• The habit of equanimity
• That one of the goals of meditations is to achieve happiness regardless of conditions
• The periodic table of meditation techniques
• The unified mindfulness system
• A “name and claim” meditation

• The One You Feed parable
• His new book, The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More and Change the Way You Lead Forever
• The way that the question, How do you stay curious for just a little bit longer? Can transform the way you show up in your life
• How feeling safe can help us access our highest selves
• The power of sitting in the ambiguity of asking a question rather than jumping to the feeling of certainty of telling someone an answer
• The Karpman Drama Triangle: the victim, the persecutor & the rescuer
• The heart of the Victim role: There’s only one way to do this, but you don’t like the way it’s being done.
• The best coaching question in the world: And what else?
• That the first answer someone gives you isn’t their only answer and it’s rarely their best answer.
• It’s a great self-management tool for rescuers because it keeps you from jumping in, it allows you to stay curious a little bit longer
• It’s a great question for the victim role because it helps give them other options
• Most people only consider two options before making a decision: should I stay or should I go? Asking this question can give you a third option
• The five essential components to building an effective new habit
• That 45% of our waking behavior is habitual
• The 95% of our brain activity happens in the unconscious brain
• Since it’s inevitable that when building a new habit you will “fall off the bus” or fail, it’s important that you have a plan for what you’ll do at that point
• How do you hold yourself firmly but compassionately accountable when it comes to changing your behavior?
• The kickstart question – a good way to start conversation with anybody: What’s on your mind?
• The focus question: What’s the real challenge here for you?