This week we talk to Alex Lickerman about building an indestructible self.
Alex Lickerman is a physician, former assistant professor of medicine and director of primary care, and current assistant vice president for Student Health and Counseling Services at the University of Chicago. He’s also been a secular Buddhist since 1989. His first book is The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self.
In This Interview Alex and I Discuss…
- The One You Feed parable.
- Neither wolf wins permanently, the battle always goes on.
- How things that don’t kill us can make us stronger but it doesn’t happen automatically.
- Building an indestructible self.
- How our inner life state has much more to do with how we cope with adversity than the nature of that adversity.
- Suffering doesn’t automatically cause us to grow.
- Learning to accept unpleasant feelings.
- How our strategies to avoid pain usually make it worse.
- Non judgmental awareness of our feelings is often better than resistance.
- The secret to success is not avoiding pain but carrying on in spite of it.
- That our internal pep talks have to be believable.
- The difference between optimistic and pessimistic explanatory styles.
- How obstacles always arrive on our path.
- That the last thing we do is look internally to see what we need to change in order to achieve a goal.
- Sometimes the way to solve a problem is not to fix it but to change how much we allow it to suffer.
- How suffering ceases to be suffering when it acquires meaning.
- Using comparison to be a positive force versus a destructive force.
- The difference between determination and willpower.
Alex Lickerman Links
Alex Lickerman homepage
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