Rethinking How We Work and Live: Why Freedom Is a System, Not a Feeling with Jenny Blake

In this episode, Jenny Blake explores how we can begin rethinking how we work and live, and why freedom is a system, not a feeling. She talks about what happens when our desire for control masquerades as safety, how the wrong metrics keep us stuck, and why real freedom comes from building systems that create space instead of pressure. Jenny also digs into the fear-based habits that quietly run our days and how to redesign our lives so they support what matters most.

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Key Takeaways:

• Designing a life and business centered around freedom rather than fear.
• Managing stress through effective systems and structures.
• The metaphor of feeding the “good wolf” versus the “bad wolf” in personal decision-making.
• Embracing fear and anxiety as potential superpowers rather than obstacles.
• The pitfalls of chasing external markers of success, such as money and fame.
• The importance of creating systems to reduce decision fatigue and chaos in daily life.
• Exploring the concept of a “heart-based business” that aligns with personal values and integrity.
• The significance of measuring time-to-revenue ratios instead of just revenue.
• Questioning societal narratives about work, time, and money, and their impact on personal well-being.
• The role of intuition versus neurosis in decision-making and personal growth.

Jenny Blake is an award-winning author, podcaster, and keynote speaker who loves helping people set their time free through smarter systems, powered by Delightfully Tiny Teams.  She is the author of three books, Life After College:  The Complete Guide to Getting What You Want, Pivot:  The Only Move That Matters is Your Next One, and her newest book, Free Time:  Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business

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Episode Transcript:

Eric Zimmer 00:00:52  We often think control will give us peace, but as Jenny Blake says, control is just another hungry ghost. It never satisfies. We never have enough of it. In this episode, Jenny and I explore what it really means to design your life and work around freedom, not fear. We talk about systems that create space instead of pressure, the trap of chasing metrics that don’t matter, and how to let go without falling apart. This one was really important to me, because I know what it’s like to build something successful and still feel stuck. I’m Eric Zimmer and this is the one you feed. Hi, Jenny, welcome to the show.

Jenny Blake 00:01:32  Hi, Eric. Thank you for having me. I’m delighted to be here.

Eric Zimmer 00:01:35  Yes. You and I are in Gotham Production Studios in New York City. So we are here, Jenny and I, for a week of in-person interviews, which are always so joyous for me, and particularly being with you. It’s really been fun to get to know you, and I’m glad you’re here.

Jenny Blake 00:01:51  Likewise, I know it’s such a treat to meet for the first time and just hit records. So in a way, if you’re listening to this, you’re experiencing this connection and conversation in the exact same way that we are. So that’s always has a little edge. Get a little nervous. But the good kind of nervous.

Eric Zimmer 00:02:06  Yeah. We’re going to be discussing your book called Free Time. But before we do, let’s start like we always do with the parable.

Eric Zimmer 00:02:12  In the parable, there’s a grandparent who’s talking with their grandchild, and they say, in life there are two roles inside of us that are always at battle. One is a good wolf, which represents things like kindness and bravery and love, and the other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed and hatred and fear. And the grandchild stops and they think about it for a second, and they look up at their grandparent and they say, well, which one wins? And the grandparent says, the one you feed. So I’d like to start off by asking you what that parable means to you in your life and in the work that you do.

Jenny Blake 00:02:43  I share your love of this parable. I included it in my second book, pivot. I hold it close to my heart, especially when I’m making decisions. A challenging part of decision making is often saying no to something good, something that’s working, or something that’s perfect on paper. So the way that the wolf parable plays out most frequently in my life is, am I making a decision based on fear? Either fear of what is already happening or fear of what could happen in the future? Or am I feeding the wolf that’s magnetic.

Jenny Blake 00:03:15  That’s about joy. That’s about following my energy, even if I’m uncertain and I don’t know how something is going to turn out. Am I acting out of fear, out of avoiding fear, or am I moving toward something that my intuition, my heart, my soul, my spirit is pulling me toward?

Eric Zimmer 00:03:33  Yep. We’ve engaged Coach Jenny and I over the last few years that I know you know. Well, Charlie Gilkey, he’s been a guest on the show a couple of times, and that has been a real orienting principle that I have needed, is that looking away from fear because, you know, I left a pretty lucrative full time software development world job to go out and kind of do this. And. Money was uncertain. And so, you know, fear was an element of it. And sometimes it’s easy to get stuck in there. And so it’s been really good for, you know, our work with Charlie, for him to sort of remind me of that and guide me towards more joy, which has always been the orienting way.

Eric Zimmer 00:04:16  Like with the podcast, I’ve just always been like, I’m just going to follow my curiosity. Like, if I do that with guest selection, with everything we do, I think it’ll be okay. And it tends to work out fairly well.

Jenny Blake 00:04:28  It’s funny you mentioned that about Charlie. He’s the one that 12 years ago when I was thinking of leaving Google, I said, am I crazy to do this? He and his friend, my friend to Pamela Slim, both looked at me and said, Jenny, you would be crazy not to. And I needed to hear it from them because sometimes all of this. It’s harder when even with podcasting, people say, you can’t make money podcasting, you can’t make that your full time gig. And so sometimes I find those voices can be so loud that we need the Charlie Gilks of the world. Somebody to say, I believe in you. You can do this. And in a way, then they become an external version of the wolf that we want to feed, versus the loud chorus of the ones saying, stay safe because it’s about survival.

Jenny Blake 00:05:12  And the other thing I wanted to mention about this parable, I got into self-help and even coach training when I was young, so I did coach training when I was 24, but was self helping myself before that, devouring everything I could find to soothe this deep anxiety and worry and neuroses. I joke that I have 10,000 hours of neuroses. That’s what I became really good at in my teens and 20s. It never worked for me. I felt like all the literature for so long is like the ego is bad. Banish the ego or your inner critic is vicious. Like tame your gremlins, get rid of the inner critic. And that just never worked for me. Even these formulas like, oh, you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you. I don’t believe it. And so the only thing that has ever worked for me is welcoming these other voices. They’re not going to go away. I don’t need to banish them. They’re here. I joke that my imposter monster is just like the big furry blue monster from monsters, Inc. Sometimes it helps me to just personify them as like, yeah, he’s big, but.

Jenny Blake 00:06:14  Or I call one of mine the furry rest monster who pulls me into the couch and I can’t move. This is when I kind of burnt out. Yeah, at the end of the day, they’re just trying to be helpful. So even in this parable, the wolf we’re not supposed to feed, he’s not really going anywhere. Or they whichever gender of the wolf, they’re not going to go anywhere. And it’s okay. It’s actually like petting a rabid dog, like, oh, you just are neglected or you’re afraid of things and it’s okay. You know, I used to say instead of taming dragons, domesticating dragons, that what if we didn’t have such an adversarial relationship with this part of ourselves that we think is so bad. Even the bad wolf. Yeah. What if you could just pet them and they just need a belly rub, and then they’ll just quiet down? Yeah, cause it’s not that we want to listen or let that one dominate, but it just doesn’t work for me to imagine that it doesn’t exist.

Eric Zimmer 00:07:04  That’s right.

Jenny Blake 00:07:05  Whatever will stop existing.

Eric Zimmer 00:07:06  Yeah. As you were talking there, it brought a quote to mind of a gentleman I’m going to interview later this week whose name is Andrew Solomon. And he’s an amazing guy anyway. But he has a line in his book about depression and he says, basically, if you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes. Oh, and I love that because you as you brought up dragons, you know, these so-called negatives are often the way we become the best version of ourselves.

Jenny Blake 00:07:31  Yeah, and it doesn’t help, because when I was operating under that paradigm that these voices are bad, it’s bad that I have them, and it’s also bad that I can’t make them go away, that my self-help thing isn’t working. Yeah. Even part of how I describe my podcast and my work is embracing fear, anxiety and security uncertainty as the superpowers that they are. Yes, because I’ve been podcasting almost as long as you. Not quite as long you have the epic nine years in.

Jenny Blake 00:07:59  I’ve been doing eight years and I joked with you before we hit record. I still feel awkward every single time before I start. After I finish, when I listen back, it’s all awkward. But if I let that awkwardness be bad, I wouldn’t have a show at all. It wouldn’t produce anything at all. Yep, that’s sort of the way that I tame the perfectionist is just yeah, it is awkward, but I keep going anyway.

Eric Zimmer 00:08:20  Yep. So your book Free Time talks a lot about building what you call a heart based business, and it’s oriented towards business owners. And, you know, if you’re trying to build your own business, I think it’s an outstanding book. I’m going to take some of the things from it and just shift it a little bit more to the personal level, even though the entire book is personal. Right? I mean, it’s about building a business that supports you and who you are. Not just a business that makes money, but just to give an orientation for kind of where we’re going to go.

Eric Zimmer 00:08:54  But you talk very early on and you say that stress is a systems problem. So just talk about that broadly.

Jenny Blake 00:09:02  Sure. And yeah, I appreciate you shifting toward the person because really we could say heart based anything. It just means that we’re not letting external markers of success drive how we act, how we structure things. And when I say stress as a systems problem, even in the context of a household, if I noticed myself fighting with my husband about how tidy it is, like he doesn’t notice clutter at all, and it really bothers me. And when we have friction about that, that’s really a systems problem. He’s not bad or wrong, and neither am I. But the only way that we could address this is to create a system that will work for the whole triad, you know, for all of us. And because if I become overly demanding, like that’s going to wear away at his soul. And his way of being. So long story short, stress. The systems problem is really an invitation to look at anywhere that we’re experiencing stress or friction.

Jenny Blake 00:09:57  And instead of trying to make one or the other wrong, it’s almost elevating to another perspective of what steps, what system can we put in place that would alleviate this stress or friction. So in the household it’s a cleaner comes once a week on Fridays. Now sometimes my husband doesn’t like having another person around. Too bad. Like you’re not allowed to complain. We set up the system. Importantly, it’s on a recurring basis so I don’t have the decision fatigue. I used to think it was bad to spend so much money on cleaning, and I also used to try to wait. Is the house dirty enough yet? But even the constant wondering when should I call her? When should I schedule it? What day? It’s tiring. Yes. And then a person becomes resentful. The one who’s managing all that, or the one that cares about a clean house. And I got that from Byron Katie. It’s like if you’re the one noticing the dishes in the sink. Guess what? You can do them because you’re the one noticing it.

Jenny Blake 00:10:51  So I often take my own little annoyances or things in life and business as okay, I’m the one noticing it. So instead of demanding that everybody around me change, what could I set up that makes an even better scenario and why I say system. Some people feel allergic to that word. Is that a good system is recurring. It’s kind of set it and forget it. This is about setting your time free. Yes, so that once you put in place, it’s harder not to use it. Like we get pre-made meals delivered once a week. It’s not the only thing we eat, but it saves so many moments of friction or tension. Who’s cooking? What? Where are the groceries?

Eric Zimmer 00:11:27  Yep. There’s a couple things in there that I want to hit on. The first is, you know, when we say that a systems problem between people, one of the systems that is between people is the system of communication, right. And so there’s a lot of Couples therapy ideas around you. Focus on the dynamic of what the conversational system structure that has evolved between you is.

Eric Zimmer 00:11:54  Then it’s not you versus the other person, it’s you and the other person versus this dynamic, this conversational dynamic. And I’ve also heard people say, if you’re having problems and arguing a lot, focus on the process. Oh, right. And then the second you mentioned is this decisional fatigue. And I love the idea of being able to decide things once and not have to keep deciding them. You know, being able to say, like every Friday I go rock climbing. Now does that mean I climb every Friday? No, of course not. Sometimes it doesn’t work, but I’m not having to figure out, like, well, what do I do on Friday? Or when am I going to rock climb this week? It’s like, well, Friday, right? And then again, there are exceptions to the rule and I can handle those. But the more we can sort of decide that sort of stuff like, this is what I do in the morning, it’s always set that way. Separating that decision from the action is so valuable because, as you mentioned, how much time and energy goes into deciding or figuring something out, let alone then taking the action, right? So how much time do you spend swirling in your mind about, like you said, the cleaning lady calling the cleaning lady is not very hard, right? But for those of us who have minds that tend to get stuck in a groove, you know, can churn up a lot of energy.

Jenny Blake 00:13:11  And it exacerbates the situation. Because if I’m booking on an ad hoc basis, oh, no, she’s not available. Now we’re going back and forth ten messages for the next date. When it’s recurring, it’s set it and forget it. So when you’re rock climbing example, if you don’t block off your calendar with a recurring do not schedule block, then you might say, great, I’m going to go rock climbing. Oh no, my team has booked me for five podcasts, so you can in a calendar sense, and I encourage everybody to do this. Grab some time. Design your calendar First before anyone else has a crack at it. And so you could have a recurring Friday and then you could even. And I know you’re big on connection and community and accountability. You could even always meet somebody at the rock climbing gym, so you feel even more like drawn to Go or oh, I don’t feel like it today. Well, I’m meeting my friend there. Yeah. And so there are just all these ways that we can set up the system to be a little more ironclad.

Jenny Blake 00:14:03  Part of the reason we’re recording here at Gotham, as you mentioned, and I record here a lot for solo episodes, for the sole fact that when I show up, I don’t want to burn my own money. So I have to produce, because if I try to record my solo episodes at home, it’s like, oh, I don’t feel like it. I’m not in the right mood. Oh, whatever’s happening in the living room is more fun. I just fritter the time away. But when I come here, it’s like, no, you’re paying for this. Yeah. Make it happen.

Eric Zimmer 00:14:30  Yep. If there is a rock climber in Columbus, Ohio, listening to this, who would like to meet me at the gym, let me know, because I do not have a climbing friend. My son when he’s in town. So you talk about not chasing what you call the Four horsemen of the business ambition apocalypse. And again, this applies whether you know, you’re talking about your own business, somebody you work for any of that, but you call them the hungry ghosts of money, fame, power and control.

Eric Zimmer 00:14:55  Talk a little bit about those.

Jenny Blake 00:14:57  Money, power and fame are the ones that we most commonly hear as vices. And even one of my friends has a theory that each of us has a proclivity toward one of those three, even if it’s not in an extreme or nefarious sense, we might be a little more driven by money, by power, by fame. But the one that I think we don’t talk enough about, that I sort of added is control, and that whether it is as a business owner or in your own life or in your relationships, control can be a hungry ghost because you’ll never have enough of it. It will never actually soothe the existential discomfort of whatever it is trying to be in relationship or trying to be in the world, trying to be in your career? We try to control things or we think we somehow can control things, and that that will make us feel better. And I just don’t think it works. It ends up kind of suffocating the life out of most situations when control is taken to an extreme.

Speaker 4 00:15:52  So let’s go a little.

Eric Zimmer 00:15:54  Deeper on that, because a lot of your book is about creating systems that give your life more freedom, and that happens by imposing some degree of structure and repeatability. What’s the difference between doing that wisely and chasing the hungry ghost of control?

Jenny Blake 00:16:13  Part of it, for me, has been a lesson in choosing what to be a perfectionist about and then letting the rest go. So I’m very detail oriented when it comes to my books. No stone goes unturned. I went through the entire free time manuscript and made sure no hyphenated word was hanging off the right side of the page, stuff like that. That drives everyone around me crazy. So sometimes I think you’re right. Control can tie into structure rigidity boundaries. You know, these all have a dance, but in the free time sense. When I started, the book launched a little over a year ago, and people would say it’s a time management or productivity book. And I know I share this thought with Oliver Berkman, who wrote 4000 weeks.

Jenny Blake 00:16:52  I know you’ve had him on the show. He and I both share this philosophy that just trying to squeeze more out of the time we have feels terrible. So in a way, efficiency means, oh, can you do what you’re doing? But more, better, faster. And then time management, just the word management. It’s like time is in a box slash prison cell. And we’re going to manage it and even micromanage it and control it until it produces exactly the peak performance output that we want. And there are so many podcasts about peak performance. And the phrase itself kind of drives me nuts because we’re human beings. Like sometimes we’re at our peak, and a lot of times we’re not. So to me, the systems are actually a gentle way of putting things in place so that we relieve the burden off of our mind. To have to think about that thing again. Even teaching team members, you know. If you ask me a question and it doesn’t live in our documentation, please add it for the next time.

Jenny Blake 00:17:49  That’s a step that takes a little extra time now, but it’s going to save us all time in the future. And so I think trying to control and this is why I don’t advise like manual time tracking or putting your calendar 15 minute increments. That does work for some people, but I find that imposing too much control feels quite constricting at the end of the day. I would rather create the loose boundaries even. Oh, I don’t take calls before 11 or after two. Then I can be really loose and free and then the work is actually dropping the guilts. Oh, I should be working because that’s who. A factory system doesn’t work for most of us. The factory system was not at any point, and even the way it manifests in today’s corporate structure was not in any way designed for our physical and relational health and thriving. It was purely designed for productivity and really the only person that it benefits to burn everybody out is the one at the top who benefits from reaping all that reward. And for the rest of us, it’s just not a sustainable way to be.

Eric Zimmer 00:19:06  I think it’s always interesting the level of structure and system that gets put in place for anything, whether it be a business or own life. You know, I was in software startups for a long time, and I just used to say, like, what we’re looking for is enough structure that the train doesn’t come off the tracks, but that it also doesn’t get slowed down, you know, and, and you can use you can use that slowed down metaphor doesn’t mean you have to go faster, right? In the case of a train, you might want it to go faster. But. But what’s the level of structure that sort of keeps things in place? So I don’t have to keep deciding, keep thinking about them, but then also does allow me as much freedom around that.

Jenny Blake 00:19:49  And I see what you’re saying because yes, there is a level of discipline. I think when people join my team, they often say like they’re learning a lot, which I think is another way of saying, oh, I’m very particular about how things are done.

Jenny Blake 00:20:01  For me, the systems, as it would relate to even the word or idea of control, it’s actually a way to mitigate the chaos or the repetition or the busy work or minutia that would result from just not having designed an intelligent, elegant, graceful, repeatable system in the first place. So I guess it’s almost like without controlling how things are done in the sense of very intentionally saying, how could this process flow more smoothly and even your example of in relationships. How could these conversations, when we’re in intense disagreement, how can we move through this even when we don’t agree? And if we can design that intentionally up front? Yes, I might seem like a little more sort of structure or rigidity or control than people are used to, but I just think it saves so much chaos and wasted time and energy down the road.

Speaker 4 00:20:56  You talk about.

Eric Zimmer 00:20:56  In a lot of businesses, you know, there’s a missing metric. And again, I want to expand this more broadly to human things, right. Because we all are measuring our lives in many different ways kind of all the time, you know.

Eric Zimmer 00:21:11  And so when we’re unstructured about that, to me, then it’s very easy to start chasing the hungry ghost of money or fame, whether that fame be big time fame or just being well-known on the school PTA council.

Jenny Blake 00:21:28  How many likes a photo?

Eric Zimmer 00:21:29  Yeah. How many likes the photo gets, right? And you introduce a new metric that I love, which I didn’t have these words to use it, but has been again with a lot of help from Charlie in particular, been something that we have really oriented around over the last couple of years, which is the time to revenue ratio. Right? Like how much time does it take me to earn X amount of money? It’s a really interesting way to think about it because most of us think about revenue. You know, how much money is being made without thinking as much about what’s the cost to do so right?

Jenny Blake 00:22:00  And in a way, it makes sense. Who could blame any of us because money seems so fundamentally tied to survival, right? And you and I are both stateside.

Jenny Blake 00:22:10  I know many listeners may not be, but here in America, we’re particularly obsessed with money. How much do we have? Do we need to make more because we don’t have some of the broader social support structures that, say, the Norwegian countries have. So money is vital because if you don’t have health insurance and anything happens to you, it could spiral you into bankruptcy or. I mean, there are very serious money related concerns. Even the phrase from Benjamin Franklin. Time is money. But it’s so much more than that. And so the missing metric is time. How much time did it take you to earn that revenue in your business? Or let’s say you work for a company okay. You’re making seven figures, but you’re completely burning yourself out to the point where you might get very sick, then your time will really be cut short. I had friends who entered investment banking and they were making more money than me, but they were sleeping at the office. They were sometimes getting three hours of sleep a night, and each person.

Jenny Blake 00:23:05  I can’t tell anyone what to think or what to do, but each person has to decide if I die tomorrow or if I die in a year. Is this trade off worth it? The amount of time that is yielding a seven figure salary or a seven figure business. And to be really intentional, because sometimes what you hear from even those people that you know in free time, the way I put it is the way we bake is as important as what we make. I’m not convinced that if you burn yourself out or you spend so much time to achieve the money at the expense of your health and the expense of relationships, that you’ll be any happier when you get there, or that you’ll even be able to change those habits once you get there, wherever there is. If you talk to wealthy people, a lot of them say they’re just as miserable as the next, or then they become worried about losing that money, or then they escalate their lifestyle on the hedonic treadmill, and it never ends. So I just my curiosity is, what if we could spend the time and specifically measure not just how much any of us is making? How much time did it take to get there? How much life force did that require from us? And you could have a really peaceful, joyful, peaceful six figure job or business.

Jenny Blake 00:24:13  Or you could have one that’s killing you slowly.

Eric Zimmer 00:24:16  Yep. I keep referencing Charlie, but it’s been fundamental because it really became clear. Like, I’ve coached a lot of people on this to over the years, which is like if you’re building a business because you are saying that part of what you want is freedom. Be careful because you can build a business that will make you much less free than you were in your day job. If you’re not careful, you know. And so it’s about being really intentional about what am I doing and why. And there are different times and places for different things. Right. Like what? I had to prioritize the first year or two as I left my corporate job to doing this full time. You know, there were certain priorities there, given where we were, and we had to orient in a certain way. But over time, what I’ve seen happen is how easy it is to box yourself into a corner where you get what you think you wanted. And then, as you said, it doesn’t make you happy either, because the thing itself isn’t what you thought it was, which is often the case.

Eric Zimmer 00:25:16  Okay, I’ve got my own, you know, seven figure business, but I can never be away, can never take a week off. I’m always working. I can never stop thinking about it. So it’s. You don’t get what you thought you were going to get. Or to your point, the mindstate of, you know I’ll be happy. When is one of the most pernicious mind states. I’m sure it’s a human thing, because I think we’re wired to always sort of want the next thing. It’s part of the survival mechanism, but it’s something to really watch for, because if we get where we thought we wanted to be and we’re incapable of enjoying it because the goalpost just moves right. And this is something we all know.

Jenny Blake 00:25:59  And all we’ve done is deepen the grooves on those neural pathways. So we’re even making it even harder to break those habits. Yep. Down the road, whenever we get there. Where we’re there. Exactly. I’ve also tried to be really intentional about decoupling the idea that if I work less time, I’ll make less money.

Jenny Blake 00:26:15  And just is that true? What if what if I work half the time and earn twice as much? Who says so I noticed myself. I had these narratives that society is very happy to hand us, that we assume a linear causal relationship. Yes, even maybe even subtly, as we’re talking now, it’s like, well, if I scale back my time or my energy will earn less, but I’m okay with that and make it something where it’s assumed.

Eric Zimmer 00:26:41  Yes.

Jenny Blake 00:26:41  And says who?

Eric Zimmer 00:26:43  Yep.

Jenny Blake 00:26:44  Says who. So I’m always just questioning that. Says who?

Eric Zimmer 00:26:46  That is one in me that really takes effort to unwind because I don’t know what it is. I mean, I guess there’s a lot of it that’s cultural. You know, it’s around this work ethic idea, which has served me very well in many different ways of my life. But it can get to the point that the point is how hard you’re working. Right. And so I’ve had to really work to unwind that. Like you said.

Eric Zimmer 00:27:06  Says who? I might work less. Does that mean I’m going to earn less? Maybe. Maybe not.

Jenny Blake 00:27:11  And if you work less hard, does it mean the work quality will suffer the impact or output? Maybe not. What if it improves?

Eric Zimmer 00:27:17  Yeah, well, last summer I was able to take a month off. I’ve never had anything approaching that amount of time off in my life. I started working at a job when I was like 14, and before that I had paper routes and I never went to college. I don’t think I’d ever been off more than maybe two weeks, and the two weeks I’d been off might have happened the year before, like so. I’d never had any time beyond a week, and I took a month off, which seemed gratuitous, right? I mean, it just seemed. Even saying it, there’s a little part of me that’s like, oh my God, everybody’s going to think I’m spoiled. You know, it was probably one of the best business decisions I ever made because in order to take that time off, we had to systematize a bunch of things.

Speaker 5 00:28:04  yes.

Eric Zimmer 00:28:04  It was very hard to get to where I could take a month off. So all of a sudden I came back and there were two things that were very different. One is my energy level, and my interest in what I was doing had been restored. And the second was there was systems in place to handle a bunch of things that I now didn’t have to do, so that I could then turn my attention towards what I actually quote unquote do, which is talking to people and building programs. Like, all of a sudden there was more energy and time for that, and it never would have happened if I hadn’t done what I thought was a decision. I’m going to take a month off, and that’s just going to be a hit to the business. But I’m willing to make that right because I really want a month off. Afterwards I went, oh, not only did I take a month off, I’ve now put it in place that I can do it again.

Jenny Blake 00:28:58  That’s so amazing, right?

Eric Zimmer 00:28:59  And it all speaks to these things you’re talking about.

Eric Zimmer 00:29:02  But I had to question some fundamental assumptions that that was doable, possible, reasonable, acceptable, morally correct. I mean, all those things.

Jenny Blake 00:29:13  I know I feel like there’s a lot of talk about examining our money stories. And, you know, in the book I talk about our time. Our energetic time blueprint is as powerful and sometimes pernicious as the money blueprint. So I think some of us know, oh, I need to confront my money stuff. And I need to, you know, I have some limiting beliefs around money, but we don’t even question the ones around time.

Eric Zimmer 00:29:34  Say more about that energetic time.

Speaker 5 00:29:36  Well, I.

Jenny Blake 00:29:37  Just think we get imprinted what time is, how to spend it, how to move through a day, how hard to work or not. From the time where kids we grow up in a household, we grow up in a context of our home, what we see in our parents, how schools are set up, how our first jobs are set up, how society is set up.

Jenny Blake 00:29:54  And absolutely here in the States we have this Protestant work ethic. Hard work equals good and virtuous. Yes, and more work is good and virtuous. More money is good and virtuous. And yet the story I share in the book is that as a kid, my mom worked full time, so I was a latchkey kid. But I used to go to all these activities after school because then I didn’t realize until as an adult, that part of it was I needed to keep myself busy until she could pick me up, essentially. So I would go to school, then do homework, then have a piano lesson, then do ballet, then do aerobics or acrobatics, then do gymnastics, and I would have this massive stack. So then of course, as an adult working at a fast paced company like Google, my calendar was stacked in the exact same way. Then when I go out on my own in my business, my calendar was stacked the exact same way. No matter how much I set, I wanted free time.

Jenny Blake 00:30:44  I was always mapping my calendar to this time blueprint of cramming things to the gills, stuffing them to the gills, making exceptions for everyone else. Not myself. Like I always felt this unnecessary and false pressure. Someone asks me for a meeting or asked me for my time. I better squeeze it in wherever I can or when I started coaching clients whatever is good for them. Yep, you know, roll out the red carpet. But then I’m a disaster. So it got so refined talking about systems, it got so refined that I’m not taking one on one clients anymore. But when I was I would have them every other week. So A and C weeks of the month only on Thursdays and only between 11 and 2. And that might have meant I could take four clients at a time, but my rates increased by that point. I also put the billing on monthly retainer. Good until cancelled. I built everyone on the first of the month because I was tired of knowing who’s canceling when. Who am I billing when? Oh, you’re on a three month package, you’re on a six month and I’m coaching every day of the week.

Jenny Blake 00:31:41  There was no time to think. Yes, yes.

Speaker 5 00:31:43  So just consolidating.

Jenny Blake 00:31:44  And batching in a really what seems from the outside like really strict parameters set me free.

Eric Zimmer 00:32:27  Before we dive back into the conversation, let me ask you something. What’s one thing that has been holding you back lately? You know that it’s there. You’ve tried to push past it, but somehow it keeps getting in the way. You’re not alone in this, and I’ve identified six major saboteurs of self-control. Things like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, emotional escapism that quietly derail our best intentions. But here’s the good news you can outsmart them. And I’ve put together a free guide to help you spot these hidden obstacles and give you simple, actionable strategies that you can use to regain control. Download the free guide now at one you feel and take the first step towards getting back on track. One on one coaching was the way that I made the transition from the day job to other things. And so yeah, I did a ton of it until I realized like, this is all I’m doing and it’s chaos.

Eric Zimmer 00:33:26  I mean, I love it. I mean, I love working with people like. So question put to me is, you know, well, are you going to give it up? And I’m like, I don’t think I will entirely. I don’t think I’ll entirely give up working one on one with people because I love it. But I have scaled it way back. And like you said, you know, it happens in these windows of time and it’s just gotten much more refined. And so I enjoy it much more. And I think it’s just better for me and the clients.

Jenny Blake 00:33:52  And even that’s a more nuanced understanding of time, because sometimes context switching is very jarring. Like if you had to go from an operational team meeting straight into a podcast interview, straight into a coaching session, that would probably be a more taxing day than one where you have three podcast interviews back to back, where you get in the zone and you stay there. And then what you just described as hearing you talk about coaching, it’s clear that that’s life giving when you’re in it, that that hour of a coaching session or podcast interview and they have a lot in common.

Speaker 5 00:34:23  They do because they love listening.

Jenny Blake 00:34:24  Curiosity, exploration that those hours are life giving and that those are the those are the hours to figure out how to block them, how to structure the week so that you can get in the zone and stay there. But then knowing, oh, these energize me, these give me energy, give me joy. So that’s also so much more important than just how much money. Yep. That outer delivers.

Speaker 5 00:34:46  Right?

Eric Zimmer 00:34:47  Right. And to a point, that’s the other thing I sort of learned was like, I can love doing something until there’s too much of it.

Speaker 5 00:34:53  Yeah.

Eric Zimmer 00:34:54  You know, and I’m such a big proponent of the middle way that any tends to be at the extremes. We find ourselves in trouble. So loving doing something doesn’t mean I want to do it 60 hours a week. You know, it might mean that the optimal amount of time for me to do it is five hours a week or ten hours a week. You know, it just everybody’s different.

Jenny Blake 00:35:11  And even to your one month that you took off. I mean, just hearing how much it energized you reminded me of Stefan Sagmeister. He has a TEDx talk explaining how he takes a year off of his business. Every seven years, he shuts down the whole company. There’s no one even remaining behind in his design studio. He’s a graphic designer, but so much more. And he says always the next evolution of his business their best work, their best art installations that he kind of does on the side to the design work, always, always, always comes as a result of the year off. Yeah.

Eric Zimmer 00:35:43  You talk about lowercase hard work and uppercase hard work. So we were sort of talking about this idea that hard work is a virtue, but you’re making a distinction between uppercase and lowercase. What do you mean by that?

Jenny Blake 00:35:55  This is one of these lines of the book that I sometimes lose a little sleep at night or during the day of. Should I have said that? Is that the right thing? So I’ll be curious to hear your take.

Jenny Blake 00:36:05  My intention when I put this in the book is that uppercase hard work is this grind, and it’s almost like we’re grinding ourselves. We’re murdering ourselves so that we can do the hard work. And it’s almost capital H. Hard work is at the expense of ourselves, but we think it’s the right thing or it’s what we need to do. I need to do this and then it will pay off later. Lowercase hard work is, of course, you’re going to invest time, energy, money, resources into work or projects. That’s what we love actually, secretly, even when a project like a lot of people are intimidated to write a book, but they say they want to write a book someday. One study said as many as 1 in 3 people have dreams of writing a book, and I used to find myself complaining, oh, writing a book is so hard. And I stopped saying that. Like, writing a book is complex, it’s meaty, it’s challenging, but it’s exciting. And so even myself talk to myself.

Jenny Blake 00:37:03  I try to notice when I’m saying, oh, something is so hard and complaining about it versus challenge that I’m choosing, and also being mindful not to work hard just for the sake of working hard. Because while that can sometimes be rewarded if you work within a company when you’re self-employed, there’s no reward. There is no correlation between hard work, mastering yourself for the business, and any promise of success as a result of that. In fact, I think that energetically kind of sends the wrong message. Can you imagine if you were constantly complaining on this show of how hard podcasting is, how hard it is to prepare for your guests, how hard it is to stay listening when they get on these tangents and they’re so boring, and then how hard it is to grow the show, it’s like it kind of sucks the joy out. Yeah. And who would want to listen to that? So it’s either hard work and a really friction sort of way where you maybe should stop doing that altogether. Or it’s lowercase hard.

Jenny Blake 00:37:59  We accept that hard and we find the good.

Eric Zimmer 00:38:01  Yeah, I think there’s a couple of things there. I think there’s sort of knowing what work gives you more energy and you really like and what sort of work wears you down and you don’t like. And then there’s even in that work that we do enjoy, as you were saying, we can get very serious about it, right? Or martyred about it. Like, I come by the martyrdom idea fairly naturally. I will not say from who, but family inheritance that I have to watch for, and recognizing that it was happening this week a little bit. I have a bunch of interviews this week. I’m so excited in person with all these amazing people, and it’s a lot because I’m a diligent preparer. But reminding myself as our producer, Nicole, will do, you did this to yourself first, right? But secondly, reminding myself, like, yeah, this is what I love to do. Yes, it’s going to take a lot of effort, but don’t turn it into a problem when it’s not a problem.

Eric Zimmer 00:39:02  It’s effort. It is hard work. Yeah. So I do like this uppercase lowercase. Because if I remind myself this is the work that you love, how fortunate to be able to come to New York and talk to people and have a podcast that supports you like that is the dream.

Jenny Blake 00:39:18  Yeah.

Eric Zimmer 00:39:19  You know, I remember being here. I don’t know the number of years. Six maybe. Jenny and I came to New York, and the reason we came was to attend a course Jonathan offered called the Art of Becoming Known. I was still working my full time job, and I had a couple interviews while I was here also, and I remember this moment. We were in a cab driving from one thing to the next, and I don’t know if I said it out loud or I just thought it, but it was like, God, I just wish this was my life. Like I wished this wasn’t going to end at the end of this week, and I was going to go back and and go back to this job, which was actually a pretty good job in a lot of ways.

Eric Zimmer 00:39:53  But it wasn’t my thing. And I keep trying to remember that, that at that time, if you told me I would be here doing this, I would have said yes, please, anything for that. And to remember that helps me move away from uppercase hard work to lowercase. Like, yes, we’re putting in a lot of effort and it’s doing something I love. And how fortunate is that? So reframing things as a choice is always enormously powerful.

Jenny Blake 00:40:20  That reminds me of two things. The saying abundance is the overwhelm you’ve been asking for even this week, this abundance of interviews. Well, this is the dream that you asked for all those years. And then I forget where I heard this. But whenever you say, oh, I have to do a podcast today, or I get that way sometimes about solo episodes because it’s just me, there’s no accountability of another person across from me. And to just shift it to I get to dot, dot, dot and truly it actually works for me, where I’ll be grumpy with my coffee and then I’ll go.

Jenny Blake 00:40:50  I get to record an episode today. That’s a privilege. That’s a treat. Or yeah, I talked about authors. Sometimes they’re like, oh, launching a book is so hard, but it’s like, I get to launch a book. Like, this is the ultimate champagne problem. Oh, I don’t know how to market it. It’s like, well, you created this thing. I just did a solo on the glass, half full or half empty. But you created a glass. I was evaluating the first year of the launch. How did it go for free time. And sometimes I’d find myself getting down because, again, the hedonic treadmill of metrics. Yes. Never enough. How many listeners, how many readers? How many downloads? It’s never enough.

Eric Zimmer 00:41:25  Never.

Jenny Blake 00:41:26  And so I have to remind myself the glass isn’t half full or half empty. I created a glass out of a figment of my imagination. That’s the thing to celebrate. That’s the thing to stay focused on.

Eric Zimmer 00:41:37  Well, and it’s getting to that idea of a heart based business and a missing metric is, yeah, what am I measuring and why? You know, because you’re right.

Eric Zimmer 00:41:46  When we’re looking at external metrics, the scale just keeps changing. You know, if you told me when I started this show that we would have the number of downloads we had, I would have a never believed you. And B jumped for joy for a week. Right. But then you get there and you’re like, well, yeah, that’s good. But you know what? We we kind of need the next level and the next level. So those external metrics, they have a role. And I always have to sort of reorient back towards like, okay, but what about this is important. It’s not just downloads. Right.

Jenny Blake 00:42:17  Like like faceless, nameless listeners. Like you’re a download now.

Eric Zimmer 00:42:22  Yeah. Like, what about this is important, you know? And I go back to why did I start the show? And I was like, well, I wanted to spend more time with Chris, my best friend, who’s the audio guy. I knew it would be good for me, like, good for me to have these conversations.

Eric Zimmer 00:42:36  Those were the two primary reasons. And I look back and I’m like, those have been fulfilled in spades and continue to, you know. And then when it started helping people, it was like, oh my goodness. You know, that’s the extra bonus. And so, yeah, the connections that I’ve made with guests and listeners and there are so many things that if I’m just looking at the main metric of downloads. All that gets washed away. And it’s not enough because you’re not Tim Ferriss or Joe Rogan or name your podcaster. Right. So all this stuff is just a really important reflection. I think for me, it kind of comes down to always coming back to like what really matters here, what’s really important.

Jenny Blake 00:43:18  And that is heart based anything. Yes. Which is that money isn’t the only metric for me. Heart based is I’m not going to sacrifice my values or my integrity for the sake of growing the business or making more money. I, in those cases, will sometimes take the longer route or the scenic route because I don’t want to put money into something I don’t believe in, or just because everyone else is doing it.

Jenny Blake 00:43:43  So there’s a certain ginormous social media site that started as a way to rate women on their looks. I’m not going to give you my ad money. I don’t care if 99 out of 100 companies advertise there or say, that’s the only way to grow XYZ thing, It doesn’t resonate for me. I’m not going to do it. I’m stubborn about that. Yeah, but the other thing about heart paste is, is the permission to follow your heart and follow your intuition. And sometimes people denigrate intuition as, oh, I’m a data person. What is intuition if not a thousand subconscious data points, if not a million that you’ve been collecting your whole life? So there is a place for heart and soul and intuition in the decisions that we make and the ways that we operate. And I just feel so strongly about that. And my creative coach, J. So to your point about metrics, he had us do this great exercise of determining our even more meaningful metrics. So it’s not that we won’t measure the really straightforward stuff like downloads, revenue, whatever, but what’s even more meaningful? So one of his is CPP cackles per piece.

Jenny Blake 00:44:47  How many times does he crack himself up when recording one of his unthinkable episodes? Or one of mine number of friends made through podcasting?

Eric Zimmer 00:44:56  Wow, That’s a great metric.

Jenny Blake 00:44:57  Hold on. Number of new friends because I joke. Podcasting is like the introverts Guide to Making friends. You know. Totally. Yeah. So what if I measured number of new friends made over the last eight years? It’s like, oh, it’s priceless. It’s been priceless. Even if no one’s listening and $0 are earned. Yes, I have hundreds of new friends made.

Eric Zimmer 00:45:17  Right. Yeah. It’s that intrinsic motivation. Like, yeah, these shows, I do them because I love doing them and they’re good for me. And. But I have to remember that because I will turn anything into a job. I’ve talked about this a lot on the show. I will turn anything into something that has to be strived at and conquered and improved. I took up rock climbing. Why did I take it up? A my son does it, and I thought it’d be a great way for us to be able to do something together.

Eric Zimmer 00:45:43  And I wanted something new and interesting and challenging to do with my body. So I’m climbing. It’s great, but within the second time I’m there, I’m like, oh, I’m going to get a rock climbing coach and I’m going to I’m just because that’s the thing. It’s like I’ve just had to consciously with that really work on like, don’t turn this into a job and there is a natural joy in improving, right?

Jenny Blake 00:46:07  That’s probably what made you.

Eric Zimmer 00:46:08  So how do I how do I balance that? So I wanted to come back to something you just mentioned, which is intuition. I find intuition fascinating. And what I find fascinating about it is how do we tell the difference between our intuition and to use a word that you use earlier, my neurosis, because both feel very strong and feel very natural. Right. Just because it feels real doesn’t mean it is. So I’m just curious how you sort those two things out, given that you’ve said you’ve got, you know, 10,000 hours of neuroses.

Eric Zimmer 00:46:44  Yeah. How do you separate that? Which is very natural to you at this point? And what is an actual intuition that’s worth following?

Jenny Blake 00:46:51  And specifically, my neuroses tend to manifest as people pleasing, perfectionism, worry, anxiety. So those are my. That’s what I have a lot of practice in intuition. I love Penny Pierce’s work. She wrote a book called The Intuitive Way, and thanks to the podcast, we did a whole series. She became a great friend. She actually gives a lot of practical ways to grow intuition, because I know you’ve said behavior change is a skill, you can actually build the skill. Same thing with intuition. We all have it. And to answer your question, we can all improve how to discern the difference by growing the skill, paying closer attention, observing things, making a note of what we thought was intuition versus what was just fear or anxiety. Intuition comes to me when I. I tend to get it’s very quiet. It does come to me kind of as a download, whereas anxiety and fear is a little louder, a little more panicky, a little more impulsive.

Jenny Blake 00:47:47  So I try to pay attention and I guess we can’t always know as well. So sometimes I don’t know. I mean, I know, of course, you’ve talked so much about different mindfulness practices and those help, but I won’t even just say, oh, meditation is the answer to everything. I just think it’s learning. How does your intuition speak to you? When has it spoken in the past? And something that I learned from Penny is that, well, couple things. One, when we’re at the level of like red flags, let’s say in relationships, that’s almost intuition in its lowest, loudest form where you get sick, that’s where like you’re not really listening. And so life events have to become increasingly dramatic for you to listen. Over time, it can become more nuanced. And so in our book frequency, Penny talks about finding your home frequency. When are you or what self-care practices lead you to be sort of like calm, peaceful? Have that equanimity. That’s when we can hear the more subtle intuitive clues.

Jenny Blake 00:48:45  And then she says, the highest form of home frequency is self entertainment, where we’re entertained. We’re delighted. We’re curious. Even doing something you love is a form of self entertainment, rock climbing, self entertainment. And when we’re in that playful spirit, we also can get more creative ideas. And I find that I get more creative ideas. The last thing I’ll say here is I’ve just also learned to sit with my discomfort for longer and longer periods of time. Like the last few years, the pandemic have been really tricky in my business because I used to earn a lot of income from keynote speaking, which all but dried up. I keep thinking every year we’re going to turn the corner and then new chaos unfolds. And so just sitting with how uncomfortable it is not to have that income stream, or not to know when the next speaking gig will be booked and just letting it be and not rushing. I call that when the financial tides recede, not just rushing to chase after those receding tides, but what has washed up on the shore.

Jenny Blake 00:49:41  What’s the new insight or opportunity here? If I don’t rush to chase after what was.

Eric Zimmer 00:49:46  It takes courage.

Jenny Blake 00:49:48  Yeah. But that’s a skill too. I don’t have courage. I don’t have some innate, courageous gene. And I never had an innate confidence gene. It’s like I just allow myself to not feel courageous or not feel confident. Or, as we said earlier, to feel awkward. Like all the things that we would make wrong. I just keep taking the small steps. A while ago I had postcards made for my business. They said build first, courage second, which is courage follows action. It’s not the other way around.

Eric Zimmer 00:50:16  Absolutely, yes. I mean, that is such a truism, you know, that if we wait to do certain things to, we’re not afraid of doing them. We will never do them. And there are just some things that are for certain types of people, always going to produce some fear, you know, like, I’m never going to have a difficult conversation with somebody where I have to bring up something that they’re doing that I’m not happy with, that I would like to be different or at least discuss.

Eric Zimmer 00:50:41  Maybe I’m selling myself short, but I think it’s pretty unlikely that I’m ever going to go into one of those without a great deal of trepidation. It’s just there. I just know it’s there. It seems that the more I do it, it gets a little bit easier. I’m not saying it doesn’t get better, but I’m still like, I don’t like doing it. It makes me anxious, it makes me nervous. And if I wait until the right time, I’ll never do it.

Jenny Blake 00:51:05  Yeah. And I feel like something else that we don’t really discuss enough in the realm of career and business are different personality types. Like the more empathic you are or the more sensitive you are. And I find that for me, being a highly sensitive person and empath, I get overwhelmed very easily and just like you, if it’s going to involve a tough conversation, it’s very easy to get overwhelmed. That’s very different than if I’m taking advice from practically like the sociopath CEO next door who just doesn’t care at all.

Jenny Blake 00:51:33  Right? Some people are just built in a way that they’re don’t care. They’re not bothered, and it doesn’t you don’t have to be a sociopath. But that’s giving an extreme example. I cannot compare what I find challenging or overwhelming, I mean, even often, I kind of used to beat myself about networking. Like, I get so overwhelmed at big events or parties, or I don’t want to be on the phone with anyone, let alone, like running around trying to build my network just doesn’t work for me the way that I know other people are so good at it because it energizes them. And I’ve told myself, oh, if you were better at if you had more patience for like connecting with people. But I love being with my dog at the park, just like listening to podcast non-verbal, you know? And so anyway, I think we need to give ourselves some grace to anything in this self-development world, spiritual world. It’s almost like everything is a paradox. So everything has two sides of the coin and also these neuroses or the sensitivities, their superpowers.

Jenny Blake 00:52:27  And they mean that I’m overwhelmed more easily than some next person or someone that wrote a book where it makes it sound so easy.

Eric Zimmer 00:52:33  Yeah, I think that’s so important because if you’re an empathetic person, it’s going to make certain things harder, but it’s going to make other things easier and better. And trying to be somebody we’re not is really problematic. Like I used to think I should be able to just have that conversation and not have it worry me. But that would make me not me. Because part of the reason it’s hard is because I actually do care. And I am compassionate, and I am sensitive to not wanting to make someone else feel bad. But that is also, as you said, sort of a superpower. So I have to I have to balance those things out. We are running out of time, but I want to hit one last thing, which is you’ve actually made an acronym out of something I’ve said to coaching clients for years. A little bit of something is better than a lot of nothing.

Eric Zimmer 00:53:18  And you have a phrase better than nothing, and you actually call it BTN. So talk to me about better than nothing.

Jenny Blake 00:53:25  Yeah, BTN can work both ways as then it can be positive. And I think sometimes it can be negative. Where I originated, this abbrev BTN was actually in relationships where sometimes I was finding myself in bad relationships dating wise, because I would say to myself, well, it’s better than nothing. And I would kind of be settling.

Eric Zimmer 00:53:44  Yeah.

Jenny Blake 00:53:44  I also, at that time we call it like, cookie crumbs from someone who’s just tossing out a few crumbs. And I’m like, oh, thank you for these crumbs. And somehow operating on a paradigm that, well, this is better than nothing. Having known that’s not true. So anyone or anything that’s draining you, that you dread, that is just any manner of making you feel worse after an interaction than better. That’s not better than nothing, right? They’re actually taking your life force. Yes, I’m sure you’ve talked about that many times.

Jenny Blake 00:54:13  However, on the positive side, better than nothing. It’s like, again, if either of us were perfectionists about our podcasts, we wouldn’t have one at all because no episode is perfect. They have to go out every week, no matter their imperfections, no matter the misspeak or the filler words or the awkward nit moments. Sure, some of it gets fixed in editing, but then some of it doesn’t. Some conversations are better than others, and sometimes I feel so bad like, oh no, but if I produce something that’s not the best there is, people stop listening. And the whole cascade of future tripping worry of catastrophizing what’s going to go wrong. But the better than nothing is something is better than nothing. And if you put something out and you do it again, it’s really a thousand tiny iterations over time that are what you see from anybody producing anything. I guarantee that none of us goes home at the end of the day. Don’t let me speak for everyone else. But saying, oh, that was so perfect, right? It’s just that I did it.

Jenny Blake 00:55:07  Yep. And that was rewarding. And it’s imperfect. And actually now with all these ChatGPT and AI and deepfake video, they’re so uncanny and horrible. Like, if you hear a podcast, I don’t really like the shows where it’s clear they’re just reading off of a script. It’s too perfect, right? Right. It takes some of the humanity out. Yep. So secretly, I think even though we are hard on ourselves and we think that, oh, perfect or nothing better than nothing is actually the life giving mantra, done is better than perfect. And in the book, I say it’s like cookie dough is just as good as the baked cookies sometimes. So look for the cookie dough in your life or your business, where unfinished imperfect is sometimes even tastier than the finished product.

Eric Zimmer 00:55:52  Before we wrap up, I want you to think about this. Have you ever ended the day feeling like your choices didn’t quite match the person you wanted to be? Maybe it was autopilot mode or self-doubt that made it harder to stick to your goals.

Eric Zimmer 00:56:07  And that’s exactly why I created The Six Saboteurs of Self-control. It’s a free guide to help you recognize the hidden patterns that hold you back and give you simple, effective strategies to break through them. If you’re ready to take back control and start making lasting changes. Download your copy now at once. Let’s make those shifts happen starting today. When you feed Net book. Well, I think that is a beautiful place for us to wrap up. Thank you so much for coming on. It’s been such a pleasure. And my new friends from podcast metric, it has increased by one today.

Speaker 6 00:56:46  Oh, I love that.

Jenny Blake 00:56:49  Thank you so much, Eric. Yeah. And like any love notes from listeners, it’s like if one person if this helps your day improve, we’ve done our job. So thank you so much for having me. And big thanks to everybody who’s here listening.

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