This week we talk to Matthew Quick
Matthew Quick is the New York Times bestselling author of The Silver Linings Playbook, which was made into an Oscar-winning film; The Good Luck of Right Now; Love May Fail; The Reason You Are Alive; and four young adult novels: Sorta Like a Rock Star; Boy21; Forgive Me Leonard Peacock; and Every Exquisite Thing. His work has been translated into more than thirty languages, received a PEN/Hemingway Award Honorable Mention, was an LA Times Book Prize finalist, a New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice, a #1 bestseller in Brazil, a Deutscher Jugendliteratur Preis 2016 (German Youth Literature Prize) nominee, and selected by Nancy Pearl as one of Summer’s Best Books for NPR. The Hollywood Reporter has named him one of Hollywood’s 25 Most Powerful Authors. All of his books have been optioned for film.
In This Interview, Matthew Quick and I Discuss…
- The Wolf Parable
- His new book, The Reason You’re Alive
- ICATS – what it means and why limiting it in your life is helpful to anxiety
- How public speaking causes him to have anxiety
- His calming practices to manage his anxiety
- Why dismissing whole groups of people is a mistake
- The importance and benefit of meeting people who are different than you
- Comfort the Disturbed and Disturb the Comforted
- Generational tendencies in worldviews
- The damage that’s done when we shame others about their thoughts
- The relationship between anger and fear
- How silencing people is un-American and frustrating
- The transparency of the main character in his new book
- Humor is experiencing the unexpected
- Laughing and Crying give relief to tension
- The major life changes he has made over the past 3 years and their impact
- Believing he couldn’t function without alcohol and Rxs
- The long-term benefit of passing on some forms of short term relief
- The power of the past to continue to live on
- Every experience leaves an impact on you and affects the rest of your life
- The power of focusing on process and not result
Matthew Quick Links
A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feedThe Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.
This parable goes by many names including:
The Tale of Two Wolves
The Parable of the Two Wolves
Which Wolf Do You Feed
Which Wolf are You Feeding
Which Wolf Will You Feed
It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.