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This week we talk to Kristin Neff about self compassion
Kristin Neff is a self-compassion researcher, author, and Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin. She got her Ph.D. at the University of California at Berkeley in 1997 in the field of moral development.
While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically.
In addition to her pioneering research into self-compassion, she has developed an 8-week program to teach self-compassion skills. The program, co-created with her colleague Chris Germer, affiliated with Harvard Medical School, is called Mindful Self-Compassion. Her book, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself was recently released in paperback.
She and her family were recently featured in the documentary and book called The Horse Boy.
In This Interview, Kristin and I Discuss…
- The One You Feed parable
- The difference between self-esteem and self-compassion
- What self compassion is
- The research on self-compassion and its benefits
- How self-compassion increases motivation
- The more self-compassionate you are, the less afraid of failure you are
- How self-compassion reduces performance anxiety
- The three pillars of self-compassion
- Learning to soothe and comfort ourselves
- Remembering that all people struggle and suffer
- The damaging psychological effects of isolation
- Learning to turn towards our own pain in order to work with it
- How to practice self-compassion
- Learning to talk to ourselves like we would a friend
- How indulgence is not compassion
- Fierce compassion
- The slippery slope from self-compassion and self-pity
- The source of suffering
- Accepting that life is difficult
- Learning to accept her sons autism
Kristin Neff Links