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In This Interview, Judson Brewer and I Discuss…
- His book, The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love – Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits
- Trigger, Behavior, Result
- Rewards and Punishments
- Habit Loop
- Subjective Bias
- Addiction: Continued use despite adverse consequences
- Addiction: a way to avoid something
- Every time we give in to a craving, we reinforce that habit loop
- Cravings are like stray cats
- If you don’t feed a craving it will burn itself out
- Surfing a craving
- The way cravings feel like they’re going to crush us and last forever – cognitive distortion
- Craving Wave: come – crest – go away\
- Awareness helps us surf these craving waves
- What does this feel like in my body right now?
- Paying attention to the craving rather than avoid it or make it go away
- This method had 5x quit rates than the gold standard smoking cessation program
- Substitute behavior
- In their quest for happiness, people mistake excitement of the mind for real happiness
- Investigate the craving and the reward
- Excitement brings contraction
- Get curious about your experiences – it helps you remain open
- Default mode network
- Conceptual vs Experiential Self
- The contraction of ego
- How we relate to our thoughts and feelings makes all the difference
Judson Brewer Links
A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed
The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.
This parable goes by many names including:
The Tale of Two Wolves
The Parable of the Two Wolves
Which Wolf Do You Feed
Which Wolf are You Feeding
Which Wolf Will You Feed
It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs