This week we talk to Dillan DiGiovanni
Dillan Digiovanni used to be a really angry activist. He believed his anger was an important driver to fuel his work to inspire change in the world. Then he had a revelation: His anger wasn’t working. It was driving other people away and it was toxic to himself. Where his path led him from there has turned out to be quite an adventure. He’s now an activist without the energy of anger and he now identifies as a man. This interview will inspire you to live your truth. It will inspire you to examine your own life and be better because of it. This important conversation is not only relevant to the issues of today, but it proves to be perennially relevant to how we decide to live our lives in the skin we’re in.
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In This Interview, Dillan DiGiovanni and I Discuss…
- The Wolf Parable
- How, as an activist, his anger was driving people away
- That there’s no right way to do anything
- If you’re angry all of the time you’re constantly looking for the threat
- His gender identity transition
- That anger can be a healthy thing
- Searching for the feeling that’s underneath the anger
- The harm in being angry at people for being ignorant about an issue
- The way anger impacts your perspective on life and other people
- The harm in saying “they did this because…” when what you’re working with is an assumption
- His relationship to anger now that he’s awake to it
- The power of “allowing” vs “resisting”
- His story of transitioning his gender identity
- Resilience
- How to live in the world when no one person understands all of you
- The anger that arises when your expectations about how other people should behave aren’t met
- The power of meeting people where they really are
- How to work with your vision about how the world should be
- The power of the serenity prayer
- What happened when he let go of his anger as an activist
- His Buddhist tradition
- Having a meditation practice
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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed
The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.
This parable goes by many names including:
The Tale of Two Wolves
The Parable of the Two Wolves
Two Wolves
Which Wolf Do You Feed
Which Wolf are You Feeding
Which Wolf Will You Feed
It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs
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