This week we talk to Barbara Karnes about living and dying well
Barbara Karnes, RN, is an internationally respected speaker, educator, author and thought leader on matters of death and dying. She is a renowned authority to explain the dying process to families, healthcare professionals and the community at large.
Barbara has held both clinical and leadership positions, including staff nurse, clinical supervisor and executive director. She has won numerous awards including THE INTERNATIONAL HUMANITARIAN WOMAN OF THE YEAR 2015 from the World Humanitarian Awards.
In This Interview, Barbara Karnes and I Discuss…
- The One You Feed parable
- That knowledge reduces fear
- How her work with & knowledge of the dying process influences how she lives
- That as long as we’re breathing it is an act of living
- What to do when one receives a terminal diagnosis
- The labor of dying
- The process of gradual death
- The significant changes that happen 1-3 weeks before death
- How to know if someone is minutes to hours away from their death
- That dying is not painful; disease causes pain
- The spiritual driver releasing its hold on the physical body
- The importance of telling the dying person that you understand that they have to go
- How to make a person’s transition from one world to the next an easier one
- How to work through the grieving process after a loved ones’ death
- How someone goes about finding the right hospice for themselves or their loved ones
Barbara Karnes Links
A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feedThe Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.
This parable goes by many names including:
The Tale of Two Wolves
The Parable of the Two Wolves
Which Wolf Do You Feed
Which Wolf are You Feeding
Which Wolf Will You Feed
It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.