2020 is just weeks away. It’s a new year and a new decade so it’s a great big clean slate and a fresh start.
In this post, I’m going to teach you how to set New Year’s Resolutions that give you more joy, peace, fulfillment, and meaning in your life – at a deeper, more lasting level than what you might think is even possible.
To start, there are two types of New Year’s Resolutions.
First, there are New Year’s Resolutions based on what you think you should do.
You think you really should eat healthier, you should exercise more, you should make more time for friends etc.
But those types of New Year’s Resolutions are short-lived.
Well, for one, the motivation for those “should” types of resolutions is extrinsic rather than intrinsic. The word “should” signals that it is coming from someone else’s voice rather than your own.
As Kendra Cherry writes for the website Very Well Mind:
“Extrinsic motivation refers to behavior that is driven by external rewards such as money, fame, grades, and praise. This type of motivation arises from outside the individual, as opposed to intrinsic motivation, which originates inside of the individual.”
Extrinsic motivation can be effective to get you started. But intrinsic motivation keeps the change going long term.
This leads me to the second type of New Year’s Resolution; one based on what you deeply want to do. These types of resolutions are rooted in what you value and therefore you are intrinsically motivated to take action on them.
Even more than fostering sustained change, tapping into and experiencing intrinsic motivation is the signal that you’re on a path towards living a life that feels more deeply rewarding, satisfying, full of meaning, joy, and personal growth.
You might be thinking that it sure would be helpful to have some sort of framework or exercise to guide you through figuring out what New Year’s Resolutions to make so that you experience this deep, lasting connection to what really matters for your life.
Click here for a quick but powerful exercise (created by Kelly Wilson) that will help you determine what you value, what truly matters to you at this point in your life and which of these areas needs some New Year’s Resolution type attention. In other words, you’ll discover how aligned your life is with those values. It’s really illuminating.
If you have been feeling adrift, this exercise will help you come back to shore. Your values can be the touchstone of your life, helping you to strengthen your sense of self, purpose, enjoyment, clarity, and strength.
Setting New Year’s Resolutions to help you live more according to your values will transform your life in the deepest way.
The bridge that connects you to a life that feels deeply satisfying, one that’s connected to a source of strength and inner peace is found in the behavior changes you’ll make to align these important value-based areas of your life.
What New Year’s Resolutions do you need to make? How do you go about making behavior changes in your life so that they are high in impact but low in the overwhelm factor? How do you structure your life and environment so that you are set up to succeed right out of the gates and also over time?
I can help you answer and take action on these questions.
During the month of December, I will be offering FREE 30-minute Personal Transformation Session to discuss Values-Based New Year’s Resolutions.
Here’s what will happen during the call: You’ll share your New Year’s Resolutions with me as well as the biggest challenge you foresee in making these changes. I will then teach you how to overcome that challenge and I will also give you my #1 recommendation based on your values and goals to set yourself up to make the changes you want to make in this new year.
One thing I won’t do on this call? Hard sell you on signing up for the program. That is not my style – if we’re a fit to work together, that will be clear enough without some awful “hard close” to end our call. You have my word on that.
Spaces are limited so go ahead and click here to book your free session.
If you want to learn more about The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program, click here.
I wish each of you every good thing as we move forward into this new year and new decade.
Remember, the best way to predict the future is to create it.