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024: Matthew Quick (Silver Linings Playbook)

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This week on The One You Feed we have Matthew Quick.

Matthew Quick (aka Q) is the New York Times bestselling author of The Silver Linings Playbook, which was made into an Oscar-winning film; The Good Luck of Right Now; and three young adult novels: Sorta Like a Rockstar ; BOY21; and Forgive me, Leonard Peacock  His work has been translated into thirty languages, received a PEN/Hemingway Award Honorable Mention, was an LA Times Book Prize finalist, a New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice, a #1 bestseller in Brazil, and selected by Nancy Pearl as one of Summer’s Best Books for NPR. Love May Fail will be published in 2015. All of his books have been optioned for film.

His books address a lot of the topics that we cover on the show all of the time. He is an engaging guest, a kind person and a great writer.

In This Interview Matthew and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The importance of the stories we tell ourselves and the stories we believe.
  • Surrounding himself with people who help feed his good wolf.
  • Growing up in a world where everyone told him he could never be a fiction writer.
  • The Good Luck of Right Now.
  • Working with the negative voices in our head.
  • Synchronicity.
  • Fiction writing as therapy.
  • The line between positive thinking and delusion.
  • Where the idea for the Silver Linings Playbook came from.
  • Believing wildly in yourself
  • The role of humor.
  • His struggles with depression and anxiety.
  • How hiding mental health conditions makes it worse.
  • Polishing the bars of our prison.

Matthew Quick Links

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This week we talk to Matthew Quick

Matthew Quick is the New York Times bestselling author of The Silver Linings Playbook, which was made into an Oscar-winning film; The Good Luck of Right Now; Love May Fail; The Reason You Are Alive; and four young adult novels: Sorta Like a Rock Star; Boy21; Forgive Me Leonard Peacock; and Every Exquisite Thing. His work has been translated into more than thirty languages, received a PEN/Hemingway Award Honorable Mention, was an LA Times Book Prize finalist, a New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice, a #1 bestseller in Brazil, a Deutscher Jugendliteratur Preis 2016 (German Youth Literature Prize) nominee, and selected by Nancy Pearl as one of Summer’s Best Books for NPR. The Hollywood Reporter has named him one of Hollywood’s 25 Most Powerful Authors. All of his books have been optioned for film.

In This Interview, Matthew Quick and I Discuss…

  • The Wolf Parable
  • His new book, The Reason You’re Alive
  • ICATS – what it means and why limiting it in your life is helpful to anxiety
  • How public speaking causes him to have anxiety
  • His calming practices to manage his anxiety
  • Why dismissing whole groups of people is a mistake
  • The importance and benefit of meeting people who are different than you
  • Comfort the Disturbed and Disturb the Comforted
  • Generational tendencies in worldviews
  • The damage that’s done when we shame others about their thoughts
  • The relationship between anger and fear
  • How silencing people is un-American and frustrating
  • The transparency of the main character in his new book
  • Humor is experiencing the unexpected
  • Laughing and Crying give relief to tension
  • The major life changes he has made over the past 3 years and their impact
  • Believing he couldn’t function without alcohol and Rxs
  • The long-term benefit of passing on some forms of short term relief
  • The power of the past to continue to live on
  • Every experience leaves an impact on you and affects the rest of your life
  • The power of focusing on process and not result

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feedThe Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

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This week we talk to Matthew Quick about mental health

Our guest this week is Matthew Quick. He is here for his second visit to The One You Feed.

He is the New York Times bestselling author of The Silver Linings Playbook, which was made into an Oscar-winning film; as well as many other novels. His work has been translated into more than thirty languages, received a PEN/Hemingway Award Honorable Mention, was an LA Times Book Prize finalist, a New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice, and selected by Nancy Pearl as one of Summer’s Best Books for NPR.

His latest book is called Every Exquisite Thing

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In This Interview, Matthew Quick and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Short term pleasure versus long term gain
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Thinking that money and fame will create happiness
  • Removing the stigma of mental health
  • Intrinsic vs extrinsic goals
  • What drives us
  • The voice of depression
  • Finding the middle ground between rebellion and conformity
  • The power of literature to allow us to see different worlds and possibilities
  • How sometimes quitting is the right approach
  • Parental understanding 
  • How his father thought he was crazy to leave a job to become a writer
  • The pressure to be someone that everyone else wants you to be
  • Letting our children be who they are
  • How lonely people need to find each other
  • How we need music and art to rally around
  • Social anxiety and depression
  • The role of mental health in creating art
  • The artist as the canary in the coal mine
  • How being adjusted to a sick society is not healthy
  • How do we know if we are artistic, mentally ill or just different
  • Affecting an air of superiority over “normal” people
  • Not better, just different
  • How people with mental health issues have different needs
  • Whether the stigma of mental health is lessening
  • The battle to be our authentic, true selves

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138: Matthew Fox

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This week we talk to Matthew Fox about The Four Paths to God

Matthew Fox is an American priest and theologian. Formerly a member of the Dominican Order within the Roman Catholic Church, he became a member of the Episcopal Church following his expulsion from the order in 1993.

Fox was an early and influential exponent of a movement that came to be known as Creation Spirituality. The movement draws inspiration from the mystical philosophies of such medieval Catholic visionaries as Hildegard of Bingen, Thomas Aquinas, Saint Francis of Assisi, Julian of Norwich, and Meister Eckhart as well as the wisdom traditions of Christian scriptures.

Creation Spirituality is also strongly aligned with ecological and environmental movements of the late 20th century and embraces numerous spiritual traditions around the world.

Fox has written 30 books that have sold millions of copies. His latest book is called A Way to God: Thomas Merton’s Creation Spirituality Journey

 In This Interview, Matthew Fox and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Feeding “the love of life” vs the “love of death”
  • How fear can drive compassion out
  • Embracing the difficult
  • Silence and solitude
  • Balancing engaging with the world vs retreating from it
  • Battling our narcissistic tendencies
  • Learning to let go and let be
  • Developing a “portable solitude” that we can take with us
  • His Four Paths to God- Via Positiva, Via Negativa, Via Creativa, Via Transformativa
  • Creativity as a path towards God
  • Getting “off the cushion” and into the world
  • Via Positiva
  • Awe and astonishment as a path to deeper spirituality
  • Nature as part of the Via Positiva
  • Via Negativa
  • Facing suffering and grieving as part of the Via Negativa
  • Via Transformativa
  • Keeping our attention on being compassionate
  • The “glittering Niagra of Trivia” that is our culture and media
  • Thomas Merton’s transition to mysticism
  • Was Thomas Merton assassinated by our government?
  • Technology as the main problem of our time
  • How technology will not redeem us
  • Being expelled from the Dominican Order
  • Supporting homosexuality

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

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This week we talk to Dean Quick about the healing power of music

Dean Quick, MT-BC is the Program Director and Board Certified Music Therapist for TranscendED, a treatment center for eating disorders. He also provides broader music therapy through his personal practice. He is also a member of the Music Therapy Association of North Carolina.

In This Interview, Dean Quick and I Discuss…

  • His work as a music therapist for people with mental illness
  • How he works with clients who have no musical ability or skill
  • That live music is most effective as well as the client’s preferred music in music therapy
  • That music bypasses the cognitive processes of trauma and allows a person to reach a place within themselves that might otherwise be difficult to access
  • How Gabby Giffords has used music to retrain her language
  • That music can ignite the brain unlike anything else
  • Where someone would go to explore music therapy as a patient
  • That music can be used as therapy for children with developmental disabilities
  • How music can be used by anyone as therapy on their own as therapy with some simple approaches
  • Being mindful of the power of music in your own daily life
  • Honoring the feeling in the moment with music
  • Asking yourself “how am I honoring my feeling in this present moment”
  • How we can engage with music in a mindful way to increase the power it has in our lives
  • Using music to pace your practice of progressive muscle relaxation
  • Why it’s better to choose our own music rather than buying music playlists that are “for relaxation”

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feedThe Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

Eric’s Bookshelf

Looking for a good read? Here’s a list of categorized books that are personal favorites of Eric, host of the show. You can’t go wrong with any of these books.*

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General Spirituality

Buddhism

Memoirs

Miscellaneous

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That said, your trust means everything to us and we would never recommend anything lightly – these are all books that have had a profound impact on Eric during the course of his life.